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Imagineer Your Life – My Notes, Part 2

Imagineer Your Life – My Notes, Part 2

(This is Part 2 of a series of three posts. Please read my previous post for an introduction and my notes on Part 1 of this video.)

Here is an overview of Bentinho Massaro’s video, Imagineer Your Life:

  • 0:00 – 12:42 – Skip (total silence)
  • 12:42 – 38:00 – Part 1See, Feel, and Be the Frequency of Your Choice
  • 38:00 – 51:23 – Part 2: Decide Who You Are (this post)
  • 51:23 – 1:17:30 – Part 3: Integrity v/s Following Your Heart
  • 1:17:30 – 2:12:53 – Questions and Answers

Following are my notes from Part 2 of the video. My personal comments are in brackets; all other notes are direct quotes from the video I found meaningful. Enjoy!

Part 2 – Decide Who You Are (38:00-51:23)

[skip the first section and start at 38:00]

Bentinho Quote 638:00 – Splash your paint onto this reality

If you can do this, a lot of your questions will simply fade away. They become irrelevant. You only have questions because you believe you can’t be who you wish to be, you can’t have what you believe you desire, but as soon as you start to decide who you are, tune in to what feels the truest for you, and become that being, all questions become naturally answered. You stop doubting yourself.

It’s just like a canvas. You don’t like what you painted? Just paint over it, and paint over it again. If the canvas becomes too heavy because of all the layers, throw it out, get a new canvas, start fresh. You don’t like half of what you see? Change the other half. Suddenly it doesn’t make sense anymore? Paint over it all over again. Do this constantly.

When you keep in your mind’s eye only what you prefer to see, that’s quite literally how you energetically splash your paint onto this reality. When you choose to just be random and confused and let other people decide for you who you are, then of course life is going to look like a chaotic mess. What you see is who you are.

 

Bentinho Quote 740:00 You don’t need training.

It’s not that difficult. It’s quite simple of a process. You see it, you feel it, and you be it, that’s how you imagineer your life. It’s not that hard. It’s always been that easy. You have already done this. This is not a new process. You don’t even necessarily need training in creating your environment, because that’s what you’re doing right now, otherwise you would not have this experience of me speaking to you.

Right now you’re placing all these molecules exactly where they are. I know it’s hard to believe, but it’s true. Reality is shaped by consciousness. There’s no reality apart from consciousness, and consciousness immediately influences everything that appears within it, like in your dream at night.

That’s what you’re doing all the time, on a different level of your consciousness, which you call the unconscious mind, but really it’s a higher conscious mind. It simply is unconscious to our conscious mind, because our “conscious” conscious mind is of a lower frequency, so it’s not conscious of the higher consciousness, therefore to our conscious mind it’s called the unconscious mind. But really, what’s unconscious to us is very, very highly conscious on its own level, and sometimes we have glimpses of this. We call that awakening moments, or glimpses of God, or whatever you want to call it, experiencing like life is a dream, a lucid waking dream.

These experiences can become more integrated, more constant, an actual part of your state of being, of your understanding of how reality works. You don’t need training in manifesting, you can’t become better at that. You’re perfect at it, absolutely flawless, so flawless that you don’t even notice your’e doing it. What you need training in is to learn to not be in a numbed down state of not knowing who you are.

 

Bentinho Quote 843:20 Know yourself

All you need to do is know who you are, and how do you know yourself? By deciding who you are, not by figuring it out so much. That’s overrated. If you are in the state of figuring out who you are, I promise you, you will always be in some version of that state. Through deciding who you are, you will find out more of who you actually are, because as you choose to manifest your reality more consciously, very acutely you start to feel what resonates and what does not resonate. Through that contrast you start to know who you actually are, but not by sitting down and having all the questions from your childhood come up, and then try to figure out through that mess who you are.

You need to first become more specific, more precise, more decisive, more determined, you need to choose who it is you wish to be. What do you base that off of? Of your best knowledge available to you in this moment, which requires only one question: What excites me the most at this time? That’s your guidance line into more of who you truly are.

As you manifest who you are, suddenly you sense a little misalignment. It doesn’t feel like quite who I wish to be. All right, great! Based on this newfound knowledge of who I am, not through trying to figure it out but simply by choosing who I am, what happens is that now I’m clear on what resonates and what does not. I’m clear on who I am and who I’m not. And so now that you are clear, it becomes even easier and even more exciting to see it, feel it, and be it. And you keep recreating this process and fine tuning it. This is an endless journey.

If you want to know who you are, try out one version that excites you the most at this point, and then you’ll see what about it truly is exciting, what about it truly feels in integrity and in alignment with your true being, and what, from that, is simply old school thinking, old school believing, old school feeling, old school being.

 

Bentinho Quote 947:45 – Waiting v/s deciding

[I took a lot of notes here, because this resonated with what I’ve been through recently and spoke to me directly, almost in a spooky way. Why wait two years? Those who know me closely will know what I’m referring to …]

Waiting is for losers, respectfully so, and by losers I mean people that will not ever discover who they are because they won’t find out. You can’t find out by asking questions. You have to find out by determining who you are. So stop losing the game of figuring out who you are and start actually figuring out who you are by deciding who it is that you are and pasting it on to your reality. Don’t wait! What are you waiting for? What could you potentially be waiting for if this is your creation?

If  it’s not your own creation, I completely agree. Keep on waiting, keep on questioning, keep on figuring out, keep on asking other people that actually exist out there, that know how reality actually works. Yes, if that was actually the case, then that would be the way to go, I agree. But since you’re placing this inside of your own consciousness  all the time, and you’re always guided, you’re always creating your own reality, then in what way does it make any sense to wait? You’d only be waiting for your own choice. You’d only be waiting until you give yourself permission to make that decision.

You may need to create all these people telling you all kinds of things for years and years and years, and you’re weighing out the pros and cons of your decision, of your excitement. Shall I take this passionate decision or shall I not? All this time you’re just playing a game with yourself until you give yourself permission to come to a point where you can say, “Ah, okay, now I know the answer!” And then you make the change, and then your reality changes. And then a new set of questions arise. This is natural. However what I’m saying is you don’t need two years for each and every single little decision in your life, because you’re creating those two years, and so you’re creating a seeming stagnancy for two years, a very, very similar reality every single day, you’re creating that, creating that, creating that, not realizing you’re creating it. You’re doing it innocently so. But you’re creating the same reality every day, and then you alter it slightly and slightly every day, but so slightly that we would call it waiting, we would call it “I’m just figuring out who I am for a couple years.” Not a bad thing per se, the intention is great, but the way of going about it is not as effective as it could be, not as efficient, not as fast.

So those two years that you place this reality in front of your own eyes all the time can also simply, in that sense, accelerate, speed up. You can start to decide something without having to need any permission from your patternized recreation of the old, until you know, seemingly for sure, that this is the right way to go. Again, you can’t feel whether your choice is right or not until you make the choice. So many people wait to feel right about their choice, and then they make the choice. And then it still doesn’t feel right. Now you waited two years. Congratulations! But you can also simply make that choice, not care about whether or not it is completely in alignment with who you truly are.

[51:23 is the beginning of Part 3, which we will explore in Part 3. Stay tuned!]

Interview with Matt Ciancimino, Co-founder of 4XMG Studios

Interview with Matt Ciancimino, Co-founder of 4XMG Studios

My favorite group meditation is held at 4XMG Studios in Nutley, NJ (led by Lou Redmond – click to read his interview). The room has such a good positive vibe and attracts people with a similar energy. I always have a wonderful experience meditating in this room and great conversations before and after the event.

I had the pleasure to meet the co-owner of the studio, Matt Ciancimino and hearing his story of how he started the studio.  He is a good example of taking that “leap of faith” and pursuing your passion without knowing how everything will turn out.

Despite his busy schedule, he took the time to answer my interview questions. Please welcome Matt and enjoy his story.

 

What was your life like before you came across the self-help tools that helped you?

My life was quite ordinary and “normal” by the standards of most.  I had been a sub par student in high school and the same went for college. However, I had excelled in leadership opportunities, for example by becoming the president of my fraternity.  Once I graduated, I started working a menial job to start paying my bills, which at the time was a culture shock for me, having never paid bills before.

That monotonous job led me to an opportunity to become a pharmaceutical salesman.  This career shift gave me some direction in my early 20’s and gave me nothing but great things.  Here I am, 24 years old, making 70-80k, full benefits, company car, and gas card.  To the general population I would have been considered “well-off” with nothing but opportunity at my doorstep.  As shocking as it may seem, with all this great stuff, I was left feeling unfulfilled.

 

What was the turning point for you that made you decide to seek other ways of handling things?

It wasn’t until I was “challenged” by my good friend Lou Redmond that I started to gain control of my life and control my reality.  This may have been around 2014 when Lou was in town visiting from San Diego.  We met to catch up, and I quickly began to tell him how “great” I was doing (i.e. Money, Car, Benefits, Gas Card).  After being excited, Lou replied “That’s great, but I didn’t know your goal was to become the best pharmaceutical rep in the world.”  I quickly snapped into defense mode and denial mode and told my buddy that I was “successful” and had worked hard to get all the stuff I now had.  We argued and he ended up leaving.  Little did I know, he had planted a seed that would end up growing stronger beyond my own comprehension.

About two weeks later I started to come to a startling realization: What was I thinking?  My passion was always in music and being in the music business, why the hell am I pursuing a career in pharmaceutical sales?!?  I began to explore music avenues and quickly was becoming less interested in the pharmaceutical work world.  This led to many great things in my life, including a career change.

 

Matt C Quote 2What self-help tools have you tried, and which one had the greatest impact on your life?

I have been practicing Brazilian Jiu Jitsu for the past five years, and I credit a lot of my discipline and dedication to the sport.  I also read … A LOT.  The book that is a MUST READ for anyone looking to positively impact their lives would be Outwitting the Devil by Napoleon Hill. This book most definitely had the greatest impact on my life.  I also think a lot of self-reflection is important for personal growth, and mindfulness meditation is a great tool to help reflect.

 

What challenges did you have to overcome in order to pursue your passion?

Matt C Quote 1Challenges are bitter sweet, ya gotta love ’em! I think the first real challenge that I had to overcome was realizing that I was living my life exactly how society had brainwashed me into believing was right (i.e. taking the “safe” job with a steady paycheck, working for the weekend, etc.). Once I realized that I had dreams and goals that were so far from these “norms” forced upon us by society, it was almost as if I had put glasses on and could now see the world clearly.

I think that is a huge challenge to overcome, realizing that the world has SO MUCH to offer, definitely so much more than a 9-5 job. I think rapper J. Cole put it best when talking about jobs and hourly wages—he said something along the lines of, “No matter how much you get paid an hour, your life is worth more than any dollar amount.” I took that and ran with it. Some other challenges I chalk up to “peaks and valleys” of pursuing your dreams and goals.

There are good days and bad days, but as long as I am creating my own reality, I am perfectly fine with challenges, because they teach you a lesson no matter what. When you overcome a challenge, you learn how to do so if you are TEMPORARILY defeated by challenges, you LEARN but never LOSE.

 

Explain what your product or service is about.

At 4XMG Studios, our mission is to empower your creativity and provide you with the tools needed to take your art to the next level. No matter your craft, there’s a reason why you’ve landed on our page. Whether you’re in pre-production (writing/creative), production (recording) or post-production (mixing/mastering), 4XMG Studios can bring your project to the next level. Think of our studio as your creative incubator. With services and accommodations including music production, song writing, audio recording, rehearsal space, editing bays, private venue space and more, we’re here to give you the inspiration and guidance to turn your dreams into reality.

Looking to host an event? (Yoga session, meditation class, casting audition, concert, showcase, etc.)

Or just need a private room? (Video editing, creative writing, photography/music video shoots, working space, etc.)

4XMG Studios’ expansive layout and modern-rustic design can accommodate your creative needs.

 

How can people learn more about it or contact you?

Website: 4XMG.com

Twitter: @4XMG_

Instagram: @4XMG

Facebook: 4XMG Studios

Imagineer Your Life – My Notes, Part 1

Imagineer Your Life – My Notes, Part 1

I recently came across a video from Bentinho Massaro called Imagineer Your Life, and I am amazed by its content. Bentinho is a very young spiritual teacher (I believe he’s 28), and yet his teachings have such depth we normally find in older, more experienced teachers, and yet they are also easy to understand and apply in our lives immediately. I kept thinking to myself, Where did this guy come from, and how did I not hear about him earlier? I want to give more people the opportunity to benefit from his teachings.

This two-hour video is about imagineering your life, which he defines as “engineering your life according to your imagination.” Because it’s such a long video, I broke it down into three parts to make it easier to absorb, and pulled the most meaningful quotes from each section. My personal comments are in brackets.

I left the whole questions/answers section out. There is good content in his answers, but I find it a bit long to listen to. His lecture itself is a total of about an hour:

  • 0:00 – 12:42 – Skip (total silence)
  • 12:42 – 38:00 – Part 1See, Feel, and Be the Frequency of Your Choice (this post)
  • 38:00 – 51:00 – Part 2: Decide Who You Are
  • 51:00 – 1:17:30 – Part 3: Integrity v/s Following Your Heart
  • 1:17:30 – 2:12:53 – Questions and Answers

So here are my notes from Part 1 of the video. Enjoy!

Part 1 – See, Feel, and Be the Frequency of Your Choice (12:42 – 38:00)

[skip the first 12 minutes of silence]

Bentinho Quote 112:42 – Recap of last speech and short meditation

[This section is a recap of his previous video: Become a Manifestation Powerhouse.]

You can start to see only what you prefer to see. The power in this is twofold:

1. Your subjective experience of life changes immediately

2. You’re no longer taking any cues from your circumstances

Meditation: Relax, take a deep breath, and ask your heart why it is you are here. If you could only experience one state of being for the rest of your life, one type of existence, one mode of being, only one, what would that be? What’s the most life giving? What connects you the most to who you really are?

 

Bentinho Quote 216:30 – Choose to see, feel, and become that state of being

The longer you imagine something, the more you start feeling it, and the more you feel it the more you become it, the more you start to exude it, the more you start to become that in your behavior, in your actions, in your state of being, in your speech, in your thoughts, in your beliefs. All those aspects of your personality start to reflect this chosen state of being.

Everything else will start to warp itself around that. Literally, you are at the center of a vortex, in a sense, and everything else just revolves around your center of gravity, your center of being. So whatever you place within that center is inevitably going to dictate the flow of that cyclone, of that vortex, of that energy attraction point.

 

Bentinho Quote 318:40 – Anchor yourself in the frequency of your choice

Instead of seeing what you think is actually there, you paste your new frequency onto that. Meaning, you completely disregard what’s going on. You’re not taking your cue from what’s occurring. You’re not basing anything off of what other people would suggest is happening right now.

You become fearless, in a way you become courageous, you become determined, you become bold, you become free.

You anchor yourself in the frequency of your choice, tune into that—see it, until you start feeling it, and when you feel it, you start to be it, and then your bring that with you into everyday life. You only see your preference.

And when your actions and your behavior become so attuned to your chosen frequency of being, then your circumstances will have to reflect that.

If you keep responding to that moment how you would in your ideal chosen state of being, then that state of being will start to spill out into your environment and it will start to rearrange, literally rearrange, the space-time structure of your existence.

 

Bentinho Quote 421:31 – Energy does not have a will of its own

Energy, which is in everything, does not have a will of its own. Circumstances cannot impose upon you anything; they never have. Every single choice you made was made based on your own beliefs, your own perceptions. It may have seemed like it was somehow indicated by circumstances, but this has never actually been the case.

Since energy does not have a will of its own, it does not have an intention for your life. It does not have an inherent sense of meanings and values. It is up to you, as consciousness, to determine what life is like. In every moment, it takes its cues from you, from your state of being, from your choices, from your behavior.

Seeing things is a great start. Feeling things is even better. But being things is what actually generates that change and creation, what actually pastes your chosen frequency, your chosen reality, your chosen heaven, if you will, onto earth, onto circumstances.

 

Bentinho Quote 524:40 Guided meditation and recap about seeing, feeling, and being

[Listen to the guided meditation. It’s hard to tell where the meditation actually ends, but I recommend listening to it until he suggests to “try it out tonight” – which, for me, signals the end of the visualization. Following are my notes about what he says during the meditation.]

What would be the most exciting scenario for you, the most exciting circumstance for you to fully manifest your chosen quality of being into?

The more you tune in to that chosen vision of yourself in your environment, the more you start to download feelings that belong to that reality, that belong to that parallel self of yours.

Anything you desire is already hidden inside of your consciousness as a potential projection of who you are.

Bring into the mix the knowledge that this is actually possible, otherwise you would not be able to tune into it. If you’re able to tune into it, it must be within your frequency range of what’s possible for you to make manifest. So bring with you the feeling that what you’re seeing is actually highly probable for you if you let it in. If you allow it to become manifest, it’s actually highly certain that this will become who you are, and that is exciting.

You’re in a sense connecting two parallel realities to each other: the one that you’ve assumed yourself to be at this time, and the one you’ve not yet fully assumed yourself to be, but which you have the ability to access through consciousness, through imagination.

As you start to feel it, and you start to choose to actually become it, your behavior needs to change accordingly. Your motive being, the way you carry yourself throughout life needs to reflect this vision of yourself. It cannot be the way you’ve behaved up until this point.

The joy of being a co-creator of existence is to make it complete, to complete that circle of creation, from non-physical all the way down into the seemingly physical nature of reality.

[38:00 is the beginning of Part 2, which we will explore in my next post. Stay tuned!]

Recap of the 30-Day Money Experiment

Recap of the 30-Day Money Experiment

Today is the last day of the 30-day money experiment (3/13/17 to 4/11/17). I want to briefly review each step and give you a list of resources to help you on your path to financial success.

10-step method to manifest money

Step 1: Know What You WantStep 1: Know What You Want

Deciding what you want is the first step for achieving any goal. Since we’re talking about manifesting more money, you may ask yourself the following questions:

How much extra money do you need?

How do you want to receive it, as a lump sum or as a monthly income?

Why do you need extra money? How do you intend to use it?

When would you like to reach that goal?

What are you willing to give in exchange: your time, your expertise, your talent?

 

Step 2: Uncover Your Limiting BeliefsStep 2: Uncover Your Limiting Beliefs

Read your goal again and ask yourself the following questions:

What makes you hesitate to pursue your goal?

What do you think might happen if you do?

Why aren’t you there yet? For example, why aren’t you already making that extra $1000?

 

Step 3: Unleash Your CreativityStep 3: Unleash Your Creativity

Follow one or more of the six methods listed in Step 3 to unleash your creativity, and write down every idea that comes to mind, even crazy, impossible ones. You can sort them out later.

 

 

 

Step 4: Take the Next Step: Experiment!Step 4: Take the Next Step: Experiment!

Sort out the ideas you found in Step 3. What ideas can you pursue right now, and which ones do you want to save for later? Which one appeals to you most? Sort them by feasibility (short term, long term), by interest (very interesting, not so interesting), or by potential (great potential, not so much potential), whatever works for you.

Take your #1 idea—the one that excites you the most, or the one that is the most accessible right now—and experiment with it. What’s the next step you need to take to implement it? Take that step, and see where it leads. If the step is too big, break it down even more into baby steps. It could be as simple as buying a book or researching online about something you need to learn.

 

Step 5: Visualize Success: How Does It Feel?Step 5: Visualize Success: How Does It Feel?

Set aside fifteen minutes a day to either listen to the guided meditation or follow the written steps in Step 5 to visualize your success. Focus on how you will feel once you’ve reached your goal.

 

Step 6: Remove any mental blocks you may still haveStep 6: Remove Any Mental Blocks You May Still Have

Acknowledge your resistance. Whenever you feel anything other than peace, stop and ask yourself, “What am I telling myself right now that makes me feel this way?”

Just still your thoughts and listen to the answer, deep within your heart. Is there a false belief you haven’t addressed yet, because you weren’t aware of it? Are there patterns from your past that this reminds you of? Does this bring back something your parents used to tell you when you were growing up?

Go back to Step 2 and address those limiting beliefs. Some beliefs are deep into your subconscious mind and are harder to uncover than others.

Be grateful to yourself for being able and willing to identify and address it.

 

Step 7: Act as if you've already reached your goalStep 7: Act As If You’ve Already Reached Your Goal

Now it’s time to start acting as if you’ve already reached your goal. It has! In your mind, anyway. The physical manifestation of it will come soon, be sure of it.

I wouldn’t recommend spending money you don’t yet have or booking an expensive vacation you can’t yet afford, just to prove your faith in the system. Live within your means, but act as if you know for sure that more money is coming your way. Just don’t spend it yet!! It’s a state of mind, feeling how it would feel to have that extra money.

Follow one of the six ways listed in Step 7 to get started.

 

Step 8: Surround yourself with positive peopleStep 8: Surround Yourself with Successful People

One of the fastest ways to become successful is to surround yourself with successful, positive people. As long as you stay with your regular crowd, people who work 9 to 5 at a job they don’t really like and who wish they had more money, you will find it hard to move past those limiting belief you have that it’s the only way to live.

Meet people who live differently, who follow their passion and make money doing what they love, who travel and go on adventures, who are fun to be around, not only on weekends, but all the time! You will learn from them and eventually you will figure out how to do this with your own life.

Follow one of the ideas in Step 8 to meet positive, supportive people.

 

Step 9: Reward Yourself for Taking StepsStep 9: Reward Yourself for Taking Steps

The result you want is often out of your control. Your responsibility is to take the next step, and the next, and the next. Detach yourself from the actual outcome of each step you take. If you take inspired steps over and over again, success will come, all in good times. Your job is to just keep taking small steps toward your goal, not to control how things turn out.

Make a list of steps you intend to take toward your goal.

Decide on a reward: a small gift, a hot bubble bath, a lottery ticket, or anything else that appeals to you. It has to be something you look forward to, something that will trigger you to take the next step in order to get the reward. Reserve your reward only for this purpose.

Each time you take five steps, reward yourself and enjoy the satisfaction of having taken action toward your goal. Pat yourself on the back. You’ve done well!

Start over with a new reward and a new list of steps every week.

 

Step 10: Evaluate Your SuccessStep 10: Evaluate Your Success

List the results you’ve had so far. Are you satisfied with what you’ve accomplished? Do you have a better idea of what you want to do? Follow the guidelines in Step 10 to decide whether to keep working toward your goal or set a new goal.

 

 

Additional Resources

I have put together a toolbox page about abundance, listing resources that have helped me on my path: books, free courses, websites, masterminds, and local and online resources.

Feel free to explore those resources, and stay tuned for more blog posts about financial success throughout April, before we move on to a new theme in May: spirituality.

Step 10: Evaluate Your Success

Step 10: Evaluate Your Success

Step 10: Evaluate Your SuccessThis is Step 10 of my ten-step method to manifest money, and part of the thirty-day experiment (March 13-April 11). Please read the introduction post and the previous nine steps before continuing.

Tomorrow is the last day of our experiment! It’s time to evaluate the results and decide what to do next.

 

How to Evaluate Your Success

What does success mean to you? Are you happier and more at peace now than you were at the beginning of the experiment? Do you feel like you’re making good progress toward the goal you set in Step 1? Only you know the answer to those questions. Take a few minutes now to answer them.

By now, you may or may not have reached your goal, or you may even feel like you don’t really want to reach your goal anymore. It’s okay! You are the engineer of your life. Your future belongs to you.

 

Your Results So Far

Have you reached your goal? Congratulations if you have! Time to set another one and start all over! Look back at how far you’ve come and appreciate all that you’ve accomplished.

If you’re satisfied with the outcome, even though you haven’t reached your goal yet, keep at it, as long as you feel good about it and are happy with the direction your life is taking. This 30-day experiment is only the beginning. Imagine all that you can accomplish in a year if you keep taking steps toward your goal, then other goals you may have!

If you’re closer to reaching your goal but your life has become more stressful and less enjoyable, you may want to reconsider your goal. Temporary discomfort is normal. It can be challenging to do things we’ve never done before, to learn and grow. But you will know deep inside if you’re on the right track and if your efforts are leading you to a place you actually want to go or if you should readjust your sails. It’s important to enjoy the ride, not just the destination.

If you’re still very far from reaching your goal, you may want to evaluate the reasons for that. Is your goal something you feel like you “should” reach or is it something you’re really passionate about and “want” to reach?

If needed, scratch off your goal and set a new goal. By now you have a better idea of what you want and what’s required to reach it. You’ve learned a lot in the past several weeks and will be better equipped to pursue it.

 

My Examples

I wish I could say that I’ve reached my goal already, but I’m still working on it. I did have some interesting outcomes so far.

  • A friend asked me to design a website for him and he’ll pay me for it.
  • Another friend offered me to work on a newsletter project he has in mind and possibly earn an income from it.
  • I created over 25 picture quotes and realized I really love doing that! Maybe I will offer that as a service in the future, or just use it as a marketing tool to get more views.
  • I wrote a mission statement and business plan for my website. This project has taken over all my other ideas and I noticed how much I enjoy doing this. I have a few interviews lined up and awesome blog posts coming soon.
  • I thought of a product I could offer in a near future that would potentially generate some money, related to this website.
  • I met so many cool people lately, and I really enjoy the direction my life is taking. I think I’ll keep going in the same direction for a while and see where it leads me.

 

Your Turn!

List the results you’ve had so far. Are you satisfied with what you’ve accomplished? Do you have a better idea of what you want to do? Follow the guidelines above to decide whether to keep working toward your goal or set a new goal.

 

10-step method to manifest moneyThe End of Our Experiment

Tomorrow is the last day of the 30-day experiment!  I will be posting a recap of each step along with resources you can access to continue on your path.

Please use the comment section or the contact form to share your experience with me.

Big waves to my sister in Quebec who’s been following my method from the beginning! She has awesome stories, but unfortunately, they’re all in French. 😉

Step 9: Reward Yourself for Taking Steps

Step 9: Reward Yourself for Taking Steps

Step 9: Reward Yourself for Taking StepsThis is Step 9 of my ten-step method to manifest money, and part of the thirty-day experiment (March 13-April 11). Please read the introduction post and the previous eight steps before continuing.

We are almost at the end of the thirty-day experiment! Be proud of yourself for taking the steps you’ve taken so far, regardless of the outcome.

 

Reward Yourself, Regardless of the Outcome

The result you want is often out of your control. Your responsibility is to take the next step, and the next, and the next. Detach yourself from the actual outcome of each step you take. If you take inspired steps over and over again, success will come, all in good times. Your job is to just keep taking small steps toward your goal, not to control how things turn out.

For example, reward yourself for opening an e-business or for creating a new blog instead of rewarding yourself for making a certain amount of sales or getting a certain number of views on your blog. Sales and views are great, and they are certainly a significant aspect of your success, but you have no control over how many people buy from you or who visits your blog. Focus on things you have control over, like steps you take to promote your business or your blog. Then look at sales or followers as a guideline to see if you’re moving in the right direction, but reward yourself for the steps you take to make it happen, regardless of the actual result.

 

Time to Reward Yourself!

Here is what I suggest:

  1. Make a list of steps you intend to take toward your goal.
  2. Decide on a reward: a small gift, a hot bubble bath, a lottery ticket, or anything else that appeals to you. It has to be something you look forward to, something that will trigger you to take the next step in order to get the reward. Reserve your reward only for this purpose.
  3. Each time you take five steps, reward yourself and enjoy the satisfaction of having taken action toward your goal. Pat yourself on the back. You’ve done well!
  4. Start over with a new reward and a new list of steps every week.

If you kept a list of steps you’ve taken since the beginning of this experiment, reward yourself for taking them. If you’ve taken ten steps already, you’ve earned two rewards. Time to celebrate and thank yourself for following your dreams!

You can modify this method to fit your needs. For example, if your steps are small and frequent, you may want to reward yourself every ten steps instead of five. If your next step is very big and demanding, you may want to reserve a special reward just for that difficult step you need to take.

The beauty of this method is that you get rewards along the way, before actually reaching your main goal. Sometimes a little encouragement goes a long way. Be your own source of encouragement and support.

 

My Examples

I used to reward myself with instant lottery tickets each time I exercised regularly for a certain period of time, regardless of the number on the scale. I carried the unscratched ticket with me until I went to the gym five times, for example, then I could scratch it as a reward. It was very effective! I so wanted to scratch it and see if I won anything, but I had to do the work first. Sometimes I went to the gym just because I needed to go one more time to scratch my ticket, even though I didn’t feel like exercising.

Since this method is about manifesting money, I’ve decided to use the same reward system again. Carrying an unscratched lottery ticket until I’ve taken five steps toward my goal has an added bonus: it makes it easier to get in the state of mind of receiving unexpected money. What would I do with an extra $20,000? What about $50,000? I daydream about how I would use the amount I could win. Whether I win or not is irrelevant. I’m attracting money into my life with my thoughts and attitude.

 

10-step method to manifest moneyUpcoming Final Step

Only one more step to go! On Monday we will evaluate our success (Step 10) and make adjustments according to the results. Even though the 30-day experiment is coming to an end, this is just the beginning of a new lifestyle. We will wrap up the experiment on Tuesday with a recap of each step and some tips on what to do next.

Step 8: Surround Yourself with Positive People

Step 8: Surround Yourself with Positive People

Step 8: Surround yourself with positive peopleThis is Step 8 of my ten-step method to manifest money, and part of the thirty-day experiment (March 13-April 11). Please read the introduction post and the previous seven steps before continuing.

One of the fastest ways to become successful is to surround yourself with successful, positive people. As long as you stay with your regular crowd, people who work 9 to 5 at a job they don’t really like and who wish they had more money, you will find it hard to move past those limiting belief you have that it’s the only way to live.

Meet people who live differently, who follow their passion and make money doing what they love, who travel and go on adventures, who are fun to be around, not only on weekends, but all the time! You will learn from them and eventually you will figure out how to do this with your own life.

 

How to Find Positive People

You may not know many like-minded people yet, who will support your new goal and encourage you on your journey. Time to meet new people! Here are some ideas to help you get started.

  • Go to Meetup.com and look for networking events for entrepreneurs, mastermind meetings, group meditations, or anything else you’re interested in. Chances are you will meet positive people through those events. If you’re an entrepreneur, you can start with the Career and Business category and go from there. If you’re looking for a group meditation, look in the Health & Wellness category. Or go through the list of popular topics to find what you’re interested in.
  • Search for mixers in your area where you can meet successful people. This article lists the best ten websites to find networking events. I haven’t looked into each of them yet, and I’m satisfied with the groups I’ve already joined, but let me know in the comments if any of them works for you. You may want to check out Live Your Legend, an organization that has local chapters all over the world. Their goal is to help you “find & do work you love and surround yourself with the people who make it possible.” I joined the Northern NJ chapter (more on that below).
  • Follow people on Twitter that are living their dreams. There are plenty of them, if you take the time to research a little. I’ve made a list of people who tweet about financial success and another one about mindfulness and meditation. Each member of those lists has a website, follows me back, tweets regularly, and offers original content (not just retweets). Start from those lists (or look at my other lists) and build your own. You can also find people to connect with through hashtags, such as #SuccessTrain or #entrepreneur.
  • Join forums online where positive people network and exchange ideas, or find popular blogs on a topic you’re interested in and read and leave comments. That’s a good way to connect with like-minded people online.
  • Look for e-books on the topic of your choice (for example, financial success, startup, or mindfulness). Check out the authors’ websites and see if you can learn something from their success stories. They almost always have an About tab where they sometimes share their personal journey to get where they are now. You can also connect with the authors on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram and learn even more from them.
  • Think of the most successful people you know in your area, and ask them to mentor you or to introduce you to other people they know.
  • Ask your Inner Guidance in meditation to help you find successful people who can help you. I’ve found a hiking buddy and a therapist that way, and both fit almost exactly the description I had written down in my journal a few months before. Never underestimate the power of your own Inner Guidance. All you need to do is silence your thoughts for a moment and listen, then take inspired action.

 

My Examples

My Twitter lists allow me to select what I want to read instead of skimming through posts from the 5,000 + people I’m following. I have lists for everything: positive people, holistic health, adventurers and travelers, children’s writers, masterminds, … So when I want to learn about holistic health, for example, I first look at the resources posted by people on that Twitter list.

I wanted more than just connecting with people online, so I found ways to connect with people in person. I joined many meditation groups on Meetup and attended several events before finding one group that really resonates with me: Meditation in New Jersey. This group draws such good, positive people and generates a lot of good, positive energy. I’m always looking forward to the next one.

The host of my meditation group, Lou Redmond, started a local chapter of Live Your Legend (as I mentioned above), which I also joined. We meet once a month to exchange tips, help each other, and discuss about how to become successful in whatever projects we have. The synergy in this group is amazing, and the help it provides is invaluable. This is exactly what I needed to motivate me in reaching my goals.

Through these groups, I met someone who introduced me to a friend who has over 1600 contacts. That friend invited me to a networking event where I met many like-minded people and exchanged information and resources with them.

Notice how the simple act of joining a meditation group led me to join another networking group hosted by the same person (which I wouldn’t have known about otherwise), which led me to meet a social guy who has more contacts than I can count, who then introduced me to many of his friends …  When your vision of what you want is clear, you will recognize opportunities and take the necessary actions leading you toward accomplishing your goal. Doors will open. People will show up who can help you.

Within a year, I went from having  a few close friends I had lunch with about once a month, to now having a growing circle of friends and acquaintances I meet with frequently. Some of them became close friends, others I only see when there is an event, but most of them have had a positive impact on my life.

 

 

Your Turn!

Start by joining one group and attending one event and see where it leads. Most Meetup groups are free to join, and attending events is often free or less than $10. If you’re shy you can start with an online forum instead and see how it goes, or attend an event with a friend. Soon you’ll have many good connections and you’ll wonder why you haven’t done it earlier.

 

10-step method to manifest moneyUpcoming Steps

Only two steps left! I hope you’re keeping track of all the steps you’re taking toward your goal, because in Step 9 we’ll be rewarding ourselves for all the good work, regardless of the outcome.

In Step 10 we’ll evaluate our success and make adjustments as needed. It’s a work in progress, so take that imperfect next step, even if you’re not 100% ready. More on that next week.

Have fun networking with positive people!

 

 

 

 

Step 7: Act as if You’ve Already Reached Your Goal

Step 7: Act as if You’ve Already Reached Your Goal

Step 7: Act as if you've already reached your goalThis is Step 7 of my ten-step method to manifest money, and part of the thirty-day experiment (March 13-April 11). Please read the introduction post and the previous six steps before continuing.

So you’ve set a goal (Step 1), addressed any of your limiting beliefs and mental blocks (Step 2 and Step 6), came up with a list of ideas (Step 3), started experimenting with some of them (Step 4), and visualized your success (Step 5). Now it’s time to start acting as if you’ve already reached your goal. It has! In your mind, anyway. The physical manifestation of it will come soon, be sure of it.

I wouldn’t recommend spending money you don’t yet have or booking an expensive vacation you can’t yet afford, just to prove your faith in the system. Live within your means, but act as if you know for sure that more money is coming your way. Just don’t spend it yet!! It’s a state of mind, feeling how it would feel to have that extra money.

 

Action Ideas

Here are a few things you can do to get started:

travelPlan your next vacation, one you can easily afford with the extra money you’re making. Visit a travel agency and look at flyers, go online to see how much airfare costs, and be glad you can easily afford it. Make a vision board of where you will go. Drive to the airport and look around. How does it feel to leave for a tropical destination? Make sure your passport is current! You will need it very soon. Smile at the thought.

 

shop onlineShop online! Go to any store you want, add items to the shopping cart, but don’t actually check out. Just imagine how it will feel once you make a lot of money and you buy all those things. An alternative would be to create a vision board of things you would like to buy. How does it feel like to easily be able to afford them?

 

donateConsider what charity you want to support. It feels good to give something back, and it’s a good practice to attract even more. You give a lot and receive a lot. Money flows harmoniously in your life. Let it go, you have plenty more coming your way. How does it feel to be able to help, to contribute to a cause that is dear to you? Make a small donation you can afford now, knowing with satisfaction that you can give a whole lot more in a near future.

 

budgetMake a budget. Decide how you will use that extra money. A good way to do this is to go with percentages. For example, give 10% to a charity, invest 20%, and spend 70%. Then once your extra money starts coming in, you can already follow that budget, even if it’s a small amount in the beginning. It will give you a feel of what it will be like once you make more.

 

coffee shopDrive around a nice neighborhood, pretending you live in the area. Look at the beautiful houses and imagine one of them is yours. How does it feel like to live in this neighborhood? Have coffee in a fancy restaurant, hang out with wealthy people, walk around this neighborhood like you’re part of it. Figure out the way to and from your regular spots from here.

 

clothes shoppingGo in your favorite store and try on any clothes you would love to have, without looking at the price tags. Take a picture of yourself wearing them then put them back on the rack. You’ll be back later for them, once money has manifested in your life. It’s on its way! Look at the pictures often and relive your experience of wearing those clothes you will soon be able to easily afford.

 

My Examples

Okay, you’ve caught up with me! I’m on that step too. I did follow some of those ideas in the past, for other goals I had.

Back when my goal was to expand my circle of friends, while driving to the grocery store, I imagined I was going to meet and hang out with a very interesting friend instead of going grocery shopping. I got all excited about it! And now I don’t have to pretend anymore; I have many amazing friends I’ve met since then and I get excited at the idea of actually hanging out with them! So it worked.

When I had to drive to the airport to pick up someone, I imagined I was on my way to the airport to go explore Europe instead. I put myself in the state of mind that I was going on a journey, and how it would feel like to drive to the airport with my plane ticket in my handbag, ready to fly to a faraway destination! This hasn’t happened yet, and some other goals took priority since then, but I’ll get back to that idea of traveling the world at some point.

But since we’re talking about manifesting money, here is the perfect example of what visualization and “acting as if” can do. A few years back, I was happily driving to work the day before Thanksgiving, thinking of all the things I was grateful for. I didn’t pay attention to the speed I was going, and … I got a speeding ticket. Great. But instead of being angry about it, I imagined I had just received a winning lottery ticket! (Well, I waited until the police officer left, of course.) I eagerly looked for the amount I had won written on it, but I couldn’t find it. I thought, Wow, I wonder how much I won! I kept that state of mind for as long as I could. My daughter was in a swim team at the time and we had to sell lottery tickets for her team. I ended up buying them as usual, because all my relatives are in Canada and I only have two co-workers …  I never win anything, but it’s all for the kids, right? There was one winner every day, for a different amount each day: $30, $200, $50, … for two months. That year, I won that lottery three times, and the biggest amount of $200 was one of them! I also won the 50/50 at a swim meet. People started noticing! “Again! You’re so lucky!!” I just smiled. That was more than enough to cover my speeding ticket.

Back in 1987, before becoming a famous actor, Jim Carrey wrote himself a check for ten million dollars for acting services rendered, and carried it in his wallet for three years. He would visualize receiving that check with a contract for a role in a movie. Did it happen? YEAH! I would say!! He tells the story on Oprah (1997):

 

Your Turn!

Pick one of the ideas above and experiment with it. Add your own twist to it, if you like, and share it in the comment section.

Then write about your experience in your journal in present tense, as if you are already living the way you want to live. For example, instead of saying “I saw a nice neighborhood I would love to live in some day,” say “I love my new neighborhood! It’s at a walking distance from a beautiful park, and only a few minutes from my favorite hiking trail. People are friendly here and make me feel at home right away. I really enjoy my new life!” Make up your own story and allow yourself to experience the feelings that go with it.

 

10-step method to manifest moneyUpcoming Steps

We’re almost there! Only three more steps to go.

Next week, we will learn how to surround ourselves with successful people (Step 8), which is my favorite step, and we will reward ourselves for taking the steps we’ve taken so far (Step 9).

We will end the 30-day experiment with an evaluation of our success in Step 10. But this is far from being the end; this is just the beginning!

Step 6: Remove Any Mental Blocks You May Still Have

Step 6: Remove Any Mental Blocks You May Still Have

Step 6: Remove any mental blocks you may still haveRemoving mental blocks you may still have is Step 6 of my ten-step method to manifest money, and part of the thirty-day experiment (March 13-April 11). Please read the introduction post and the previous five steps before continuing.

We’re halfway through already. Good job! What are your results so far? Please share in the comment section or e-mail me using the contact form.

 

Where Does Resistance Come From?

If you face resistance when you implement your ideas or visualize your success, it’s totally normal. Your mind is used to playing it safe and tends to go back to being comfortable as opposed to taking risks and facing temporary discomfort. And some of your limiting beliefs have been there for a very long time and won’t go away so easily. It takes some work, but it’s totally worth it.

When you try new things, there will be setbacks and failures. Those setbacks will bring up any limiting beliefs you may still have. You may tell yourself, for example, “Who am I kidding? This will never work, nobody in my family ever got rich doing what they love. I was just deluding myself by thinking it was possible. My dad was right, I need to settle for whatever job I can get and be grateful for it.”

 

Four Steps to Eliminate Mental Blocks

Here is what you can do to take care of any mental blocks you may still have:

  1. Acknowledge your resistance. Whenever you feel anything other than peace, stop and ask yourself, “What am I telling myself right now that makes me feel this way?”
  2. Just still your thoughts and listen to the answer, deep within your heart. Is there a false belief you haven’t addressed yet, because you weren’t aware of it? Are there patterns from your past that this reminds you of? Does this bring back something your parents used to tell you when you were growing up?
  3. Go back to Step 2 and address those limiting beliefs. Some beliefs are deep into your subconscious mind and are harder to uncover than others.
  4. Be grateful to yourself for being able and willing to identify and address it.

 

My Example

Like I mentioned in Step 1, I made a goal of earning an extra $1000 per month. Some days it seems totally realistic, almost too low of a goal. I should have set it higher! I read success stories from people who make this amount per day, or per week. I picture myself having reached that goal already and setting an even higher goal.

Other times, $1000 seems like such a big amount of money. With my day job, it would take me 40 extra hours, and there would be only two-thirds of it left at the end, once I deduct taxes and other deductions. Quite disheartening. And how long will it take to earn that much? I’ve started months ago, and so far I’m making about $1 per month. Is it even realistic to make such a goal for this year?

Here is how I address this mental block when it comes, following the above steps:

  1. I catch myself thinking negatively and acknowledge my mental block. I ask myself, “Where does this mental block come from?”
  2. When I stop for a moment and just listen, I can identify many sources for this mental block:
    1. My father worked hard all his life and never earned anything extra from his day job. (That’s a persistent one I thought I had addressed already, but I need to revisit it.)
    2. I’ve tried monetizing my writing blog in the past, with very little success.
    3. I published a book, but once I’ve run out of relatives and friends to sell it to, the sales came to a stall. It’s hard to make money with writing.
    4. Some success stories I’ve read are from people earning their money by spamming or being so obnoxious that I really don’t want to follow their path. Do I want to become one of those people who follow thousands of new people on Twitter and soon unfollow them, just to increase their number of followers and make themselves look popular? No, I really don’t. I’d rather have fewer followers and connect with them, but it takes time. Can I ever have enough followers and pageviews that way to be able to monetize my site?
  3. I did Step 2 again and address each of those beliefs:
    1. My father never made earning an extra income a priority in his life; if he did he would have found a way to do it, like I’m doing now.
    2. I can learn how to optimize my website to get more views, which is something I didn’t do with my writing blog. There are many resources out there to teach me how to do this.
    3. I never used any promotion services to sell my book in the past. I did my best on my own, but now it’s time to get the help I need from experts.
    4. I need to surround myself with successful people who earn money by giving a valuable service or product. There are many spammers out there, but there are also many genuine people who can teach me how to earn an extra income by following my passion, connecting with people, and helping others (which is Step 8).
  4. I thanked myself for taking the time to address those mental blocks, and I added my new beliefs to my list from Step 2. I will be reading them again regularly until they are part of who I am now.

 

Your Turn!

What limiting beliefs do you still have, either from when you did Step 2 or new ones that emerged while you did the other steps? What’s blocking you from reaching your goal? Pause what you’re doing right now and listen to the answers. Write them down and address each one of them so they are no longer blocking you from the success you deserve.

 

10-step method to manifest moneyUpcoming Steps

On Thursday, we will start acting as if we’ve already reached our goal, with Step 7. If you haven’t started visualizing your success in Step 5 yet, please do so before Thursday.

Next week we will start surrounding ourselves with positive people (Step 8) and rewarding ourselves for all the steps we’re taking toward our goal, regardless of the outcome (Step 9). The last step will be to evaluate our success (Step 10) and make changes if necessary.

Almost there! Keep going! Feel free to share your stories with me as we do each step, using either the comment section or the contact form.

Step 5: Visualize Success: How Does It Feel?

Step 5: Visualize Success: How Does It Feel?

Step 5: Visualize Success: How Does It Feel?This is Step 5 of my ten-step method to manifest money, and part of the thirty-day experiment (March 13-April 11). Please read the introduction postStep 1Step 2, Step 3, and Step 4 before continuing.

So far, you’ve defined your goal (Step 1), uncover and rephrased your limiting beliefs (Step 2), unleashed your creativity and came up with a list of ideas (Step 3), and started experimenting with some of them (Step 4). Congratulations! You’re on the right path.

Today we will do a visualization to help you capture how it will feel once you’ve reached your goal.

 

Visualize Your Success Story

Only you know what you want and how you want to feel. It’s your story, you can make it whatever you want to be! Or maybe you’re not quite sure yet, and that’s okay. That’s what this 30-day experiment is for, to help you define what you want in life and start moving in that direction.

In Step 3, we’ve unleashed our creativity and came up with ideas how to earn an extra income. Then in Step 4, we started experimenting with some of those ideas. By now, you should have a clearer idea of what you would like to do, what would bring you closer to your goal. But more important than how you will get there is how you will feel once you’ve reached your goal. So it doesn’t matter if you still have no clue how to reach that goal you’ve set in Step 1. Focus on how you will feel once you’ve reached it.

 

Guided Meditation to Visualize Your Success

The following guided meditation by Lou Redmond can be done sitting down or lying on a bed or a yoga mat. Just make sure you’re comfortable and won’t be interrupted. Set aside 15 minutes to do it.

 

If you would like to do the meditation on your own instead, follow the steps below:

  1. Close your eyes and take three slow, deep breaths.
  2. Do a body scan to relax your forehead, your jaw, your neck, your shoulders, your arms, your hands, your chest, your abdomen area, your legs, and your feet. Take a few minutes to do this, focusing on relaxing one part at a time, slowly, from head to toes.
  3. Visualize how it will feel like once you’re earning an extra income doing what you love.
  4. See that extra money come either as a bank transfer, as a check by mail, or as cash. See it in your mind, smile with satisfaction, and be proud of yourself. You did it! You’re following your passion and now people are gratefully rewarding you for your product or service. They are happy to send you money, because you’ve helped them so much.
  5. Imagine talking to a friend or family member about it. See him or her congratulate you on your success, being very happy for you. You are an inspiration to others, motivating them to follow their passion as well. Your success mindset is contagious.
  6. Picture what you will do with that extra money. Imagine saving it, spending it, or investing it. Think of all the good things that will come from following your passion.
  7. You are giving of yourself freely and receiving abundantly, in an endless circle. It feels good, it feels right, it feels amazing. You are following your purpose and enjoying it tremendously.
  8. Take another three slow, deep breaths, basking in that feeling before coming back to your reality.
  9. Open your eyes and stretch your arms and legs.
  10. Hold on to that feeling as you go about your business.

 

Some Tips

I recommend doing this meditation daily, preferably in the morning. Try to carry that feeling of success and accomplishment throughout your day. Hold on to it for as long as you can.

Take a quick break during the day to bring the feeling back if it has faded away, then again at night before sleeping. It doesn’t have to be long, a few minutes are enough. Just read through the steps and recall the feeling you captured in your morning meditation.

If you’re not familiar with the body scan meditation, you can use a pre-recorded one from YouTube or on the Insight Timer app. With time, you will be able to do it on your own easily.

 

10-step method to manifest moneyUpcoming Steps

If you’re having a hard time visualizing your success, that might mean you still have some limiting beliefs to address. Write down any negative thoughts that come to mind as they show up. We will work on removing any mental blocks you may still have on Monday, with Step 6. They could be the same ones you’ve uncovered in Step 2 (some are very persistent), or they could be new ones you were not aware of yet.

Then on Thursday, we will take today’s visualization technique one step further and learn how to act as if you had already achieved your goal, with Step 7.

 

Time to Visualize Success

If you haven’t yet go back to the visualization steps and start your meditation practice. Don’t wait for a perfect time to do it; do it now!