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How to Thrive in Transitional Times – Part 1

How to Thrive in Transitional Times – Part 1

Below are my notes from a podcast by Jerry Hocek, publisher of the Bergen/Passaic edition of Natural Awakenings magazine, and Jefferson Harman, dream interpretor and TV/radio personality. I had the opportunity to meet both of them, and I love the work they do.

I keep hearing that our world is going through a transition, that people are awakening and becoming more aware of their life’s purpose. This video gives insights about this phenomena in terms everyone can understand and relate to. I was going to just pull some quotes from it, but I started taking notes because there is so much good content in there and not everyone has time to listen to a one-hour podcast. I want to make it accessible to more people who are searching for answers or looking for meaning in this chaotic time of change.

Visit Natural Awakenings’ Facebook page to leave a comment on this video and to find out about Jerry and Jefferson’s upcoming workshops about this topic.

The video is about one hour long, so I will break it down into three parts of about twenty minutes each. Listen to it with me as you follow my notes, or just browse through the notes and listen to the parts that interest you. The video offers a lot of examples and more content not included in my notes. Enjoy!

Jefferson Harman Quote 1The Eye of the Storm [-55:51]

Disruption always precedes change. You have to have the storm before you have the calm. When something isn’t flowing in your life, it’s because you are behaving in a way that moves against how nature flows. Nature is very specific, things happen in their own time. Not a flower on the planet is thinking, “It’s Thursday, and I’ve only grown this high.” We create these obsessions, these difficulties. I believe you co-create your own reality, because simultaneous to you creating your own reality is seven billion other people plus the rest of the planet all making choices, and that’s creating what we perceive as reality.

If we’re in a turbulent time, look at when nature is turbulent, which would be during a storm, let’s say a hurricane. Everything is whirling around in a spiral and it’s very intense. In the center of that, everything is perfectly calm. Both of those things can be happening simultaneously, and that’s what’s happening right now. The question is: are you in the turbulence or are you in the eye? If you are caught up in the drama, you’re in the storm.

While we are witnessing all this upheaval, simultaneously we are also witnessing an awakening. The awakening is what’s important, because that’s the shift to the more positive energy. That’s the point where we get out of the storm and into the spring and the flowers growing.

 

Jefferson Harman Quote 2Community Energy [-49:30]

We’ve become too isolated. We’ve been asleep at the wheel for so long. In the mean time, the planet has been creating this momentum that’s leading to the storm. But what has shifted is that now all these people who have been in that state are suddenly awakened. That shift which is specific to politics is also occurring in all facets. People who have been in individual energy for too long are beginning to expand that to become part of community energy.

The community energy is where the interaction is happening that’s going to create the healing of the time that we’re living in right now. Do something where you are with group energy, creating something that’s positive that’s helping to heal the people that are involved in the project and the people that the project itself is assisting.

Become involved with other people in a conversation, and don’t be combative about it. Be collective about it, create together. That’s the energy that’s going to pull us out of this.

 

Jefferson Harman Quote 3How to Change the Storm [-47:28]

If we want to change what we perceive as the storm, what we need to do is remain in the eye so that we can affect the change that will calm the storm. The reason we want to remain in the eye is because that’s present moment energy and that’s the only place you can affect any real change. How are you going to change anything in the world if you’re caught up in all of it? If you want to make it better, you need to be centered yourself. That’s the eye.

The goal is always joy. Making it better means not having the vitriolic argument that’s going to make everybody unhappy in the end. You need to have some kind of way to talk to people that you disagree with that you can find common ground on which you do agree and just work with that. Let go of the disagreement long enough to work with the level on which you do agree, and then see what changes.

Challenge yourself. Go and do something that’s not the norm of what you’ve been doing all this time. Do something that’s completely different, that challenges you personally to have to communicate in a different way than the way you’ve been communicating.

We’ve gotten too used to modes of communication that are created by our technology. And simultaneously, the very technology that has made us so insulary is also pulling us out of that insular moment into the greater conversation. The very tool that made us so self-focused is now pivoting and turning around and giving us a lens on the world that never existed before. We are living in a time that’s enormously powerful, where people who have not had the power to get their story out are now doing that.

[-40:33 – I stopped here for this post. Stay tuned for Part 2!]

Recap of the 30-Day Money Experiment

Recap of the 30-Day Money Experiment

Today is the last day of the 30-day money experiment (3/13/17 to 4/11/17). I want to briefly review each step and give you a list of resources to help you on your path to financial success.

10-step method to manifest money

Step 1: Know What You WantStep 1: Know What You Want

Deciding what you want is the first step for achieving any goal. Since we’re talking about manifesting more money, you may ask yourself the following questions:

How much extra money do you need?

How do you want to receive it, as a lump sum or as a monthly income?

Why do you need extra money? How do you intend to use it?

When would you like to reach that goal?

What are you willing to give in exchange: your time, your expertise, your talent?

 

Step 2: Uncover Your Limiting BeliefsStep 2: Uncover Your Limiting Beliefs

Read your goal again and ask yourself the following questions:

What makes you hesitate to pursue your goal?

What do you think might happen if you do?

Why aren’t you there yet? For example, why aren’t you already making that extra $1000?

 

Step 3: Unleash Your CreativityStep 3: Unleash Your Creativity

Follow one or more of the six methods listed in Step 3 to unleash your creativity, and write down every idea that comes to mind, even crazy, impossible ones. You can sort them out later.

 

 

 

Step 4: Take the Next Step: Experiment!Step 4: Take the Next Step: Experiment!

Sort out the ideas you found in Step 3. What ideas can you pursue right now, and which ones do you want to save for later? Which one appeals to you most? Sort them by feasibility (short term, long term), by interest (very interesting, not so interesting), or by potential (great potential, not so much potential), whatever works for you.

Take your #1 idea—the one that excites you the most, or the one that is the most accessible right now—and experiment with it. What’s the next step you need to take to implement it? Take that step, and see where it leads. If the step is too big, break it down even more into baby steps. It could be as simple as buying a book or researching online about something you need to learn.

 

Step 5: Visualize Success: How Does It Feel?Step 5: Visualize Success: How Does It Feel?

Set aside fifteen minutes a day to either listen to the guided meditation or follow the written steps in Step 5 to visualize your success. Focus on how you will feel once you’ve reached your goal.

 

Step 6: Remove any mental blocks you may still haveStep 6: Remove Any Mental Blocks You May Still Have

Acknowledge your resistance. Whenever you feel anything other than peace, stop and ask yourself, “What am I telling myself right now that makes me feel this way?”

Just still your thoughts and listen to the answer, deep within your heart. Is there a false belief you haven’t addressed yet, because you weren’t aware of it? Are there patterns from your past that this reminds you of? Does this bring back something your parents used to tell you when you were growing up?

Go back to Step 2 and address those limiting beliefs. Some beliefs are deep into your subconscious mind and are harder to uncover than others.

Be grateful to yourself for being able and willing to identify and address it.

 

Step 7: Act as if you've already reached your goalStep 7: Act As If You’ve Already Reached Your Goal

Now it’s time to start acting as if you’ve already reached your goal. It has! In your mind, anyway. The physical manifestation of it will come soon, be sure of it.

I wouldn’t recommend spending money you don’t yet have or booking an expensive vacation you can’t yet afford, just to prove your faith in the system. Live within your means, but act as if you know for sure that more money is coming your way. Just don’t spend it yet!! It’s a state of mind, feeling how it would feel to have that extra money.

Follow one of the six ways listed in Step 7 to get started.

 

Step 8: Surround yourself with positive peopleStep 8: Surround Yourself with Successful People

One of the fastest ways to become successful is to surround yourself with successful, positive people. As long as you stay with your regular crowd, people who work 9 to 5 at a job they don’t really like and who wish they had more money, you will find it hard to move past those limiting belief you have that it’s the only way to live.

Meet people who live differently, who follow their passion and make money doing what they love, who travel and go on adventures, who are fun to be around, not only on weekends, but all the time! You will learn from them and eventually you will figure out how to do this with your own life.

Follow one of the ideas in Step 8 to meet positive, supportive people.

 

Step 9: Reward Yourself for Taking StepsStep 9: Reward Yourself for Taking Steps

The result you want is often out of your control. Your responsibility is to take the next step, and the next, and the next. Detach yourself from the actual outcome of each step you take. If you take inspired steps over and over again, success will come, all in good times. Your job is to just keep taking small steps toward your goal, not to control how things turn out.

Make a list of steps you intend to take toward your goal.

Decide on a reward: a small gift, a hot bubble bath, a lottery ticket, or anything else that appeals to you. It has to be something you look forward to, something that will trigger you to take the next step in order to get the reward. Reserve your reward only for this purpose.

Each time you take five steps, reward yourself and enjoy the satisfaction of having taken action toward your goal. Pat yourself on the back. You’ve done well!

Start over with a new reward and a new list of steps every week.

 

Step 10: Evaluate Your SuccessStep 10: Evaluate Your Success

List the results you’ve had so far. Are you satisfied with what you’ve accomplished? Do you have a better idea of what you want to do? Follow the guidelines in Step 10 to decide whether to keep working toward your goal or set a new goal.

 

 

Additional Resources

I have put together a toolbox page about abundance, listing resources that have helped me on my path: books, free courses, websites, masterminds, and local and online resources.

Feel free to explore those resources, and stay tuned for more blog posts about financial success throughout April, before we move on to a new theme in May: spirituality.

Step 10: Evaluate Your Success

Step 10: Evaluate Your Success

Step 10: Evaluate Your SuccessThis is Step 10 of my ten-step method to manifest money, and part of the thirty-day experiment (March 13-April 11). Please read the introduction post and the previous nine steps before continuing.

Tomorrow is the last day of our experiment! It’s time to evaluate the results and decide what to do next.

 

How to Evaluate Your Success

What does success mean to you? Are you happier and more at peace now than you were at the beginning of the experiment? Do you feel like you’re making good progress toward the goal you set in Step 1? Only you know the answer to those questions. Take a few minutes now to answer them.

By now, you may or may not have reached your goal, or you may even feel like you don’t really want to reach your goal anymore. It’s okay! You are the engineer of your life. Your future belongs to you.

 

Your Results So Far

Have you reached your goal? Congratulations if you have! Time to set another one and start all over! Look back at how far you’ve come and appreciate all that you’ve accomplished.

If you’re satisfied with the outcome, even though you haven’t reached your goal yet, keep at it, as long as you feel good about it and are happy with the direction your life is taking. This 30-day experiment is only the beginning. Imagine all that you can accomplish in a year if you keep taking steps toward your goal, then other goals you may have!

If you’re closer to reaching your goal but your life has become more stressful and less enjoyable, you may want to reconsider your goal. Temporary discomfort is normal. It can be challenging to do things we’ve never done before, to learn and grow. But you will know deep inside if you’re on the right track and if your efforts are leading you to a place you actually want to go or if you should readjust your sails. It’s important to enjoy the ride, not just the destination.

If you’re still very far from reaching your goal, you may want to evaluate the reasons for that. Is your goal something you feel like you “should” reach or is it something you’re really passionate about and “want” to reach?

If needed, scratch off your goal and set a new goal. By now you have a better idea of what you want and what’s required to reach it. You’ve learned a lot in the past several weeks and will be better equipped to pursue it.

 

My Examples

I wish I could say that I’ve reached my goal already, but I’m still working on it. I did have some interesting outcomes so far.

  • A friend asked me to design a website for him and he’ll pay me for it.
  • Another friend offered me to work on a newsletter project he has in mind and possibly earn an income from it.
  • I created over 25 picture quotes and realized I really love doing that! Maybe I will offer that as a service in the future, or just use it as a marketing tool to get more views.
  • I wrote a mission statement and business plan for my website. This project has taken over all my other ideas and I noticed how much I enjoy doing this. I have a few interviews lined up and awesome blog posts coming soon.
  • I thought of a product I could offer in a near future that would potentially generate some money, related to this website.
  • I met so many cool people lately, and I really enjoy the direction my life is taking. I think I’ll keep going in the same direction for a while and see where it leads me.

 

Your Turn!

List the results you’ve had so far. Are you satisfied with what you’ve accomplished? Do you have a better idea of what you want to do? Follow the guidelines above to decide whether to keep working toward your goal or set a new goal.

 

10-step method to manifest moneyThe End of Our Experiment

Tomorrow is the last day of the 30-day experiment!  I will be posting a recap of each step along with resources you can access to continue on your path.

Please use the comment section or the contact form to share your experience with me.

Big waves to my sister in Quebec who’s been following my method from the beginning! She has awesome stories, but unfortunately, they’re all in French. 😉

Step 9: Reward Yourself for Taking Steps

Step 9: Reward Yourself for Taking Steps

Step 9: Reward Yourself for Taking StepsThis is Step 9 of my ten-step method to manifest money, and part of the thirty-day experiment (March 13-April 11). Please read the introduction post and the previous eight steps before continuing.

We are almost at the end of the thirty-day experiment! Be proud of yourself for taking the steps you’ve taken so far, regardless of the outcome.

 

Reward Yourself, Regardless of the Outcome

The result you want is often out of your control. Your responsibility is to take the next step, and the next, and the next. Detach yourself from the actual outcome of each step you take. If you take inspired steps over and over again, success will come, all in good times. Your job is to just keep taking small steps toward your goal, not to control how things turn out.

For example, reward yourself for opening an e-business or for creating a new blog instead of rewarding yourself for making a certain amount of sales or getting a certain number of views on your blog. Sales and views are great, and they are certainly a significant aspect of your success, but you have no control over how many people buy from you or who visits your blog. Focus on things you have control over, like steps you take to promote your business or your blog. Then look at sales or followers as a guideline to see if you’re moving in the right direction, but reward yourself for the steps you take to make it happen, regardless of the actual result.

 

Time to Reward Yourself!

Here is what I suggest:

  1. Make a list of steps you intend to take toward your goal.
  2. Decide on a reward: a small gift, a hot bubble bath, a lottery ticket, or anything else that appeals to you. It has to be something you look forward to, something that will trigger you to take the next step in order to get the reward. Reserve your reward only for this purpose.
  3. Each time you take five steps, reward yourself and enjoy the satisfaction of having taken action toward your goal. Pat yourself on the back. You’ve done well!
  4. Start over with a new reward and a new list of steps every week.

If you kept a list of steps you’ve taken since the beginning of this experiment, reward yourself for taking them. If you’ve taken ten steps already, you’ve earned two rewards. Time to celebrate and thank yourself for following your dreams!

You can modify this method to fit your needs. For example, if your steps are small and frequent, you may want to reward yourself every ten steps instead of five. If your next step is very big and demanding, you may want to reserve a special reward just for that difficult step you need to take.

The beauty of this method is that you get rewards along the way, before actually reaching your main goal. Sometimes a little encouragement goes a long way. Be your own source of encouragement and support.

 

My Examples

I used to reward myself with instant lottery tickets each time I exercised regularly for a certain period of time, regardless of the number on the scale. I carried the unscratched ticket with me until I went to the gym five times, for example, then I could scratch it as a reward. It was very effective! I so wanted to scratch it and see if I won anything, but I had to do the work first. Sometimes I went to the gym just because I needed to go one more time to scratch my ticket, even though I didn’t feel like exercising.

Since this method is about manifesting money, I’ve decided to use the same reward system again. Carrying an unscratched lottery ticket until I’ve taken five steps toward my goal has an added bonus: it makes it easier to get in the state of mind of receiving unexpected money. What would I do with an extra $20,000? What about $50,000? I daydream about how I would use the amount I could win. Whether I win or not is irrelevant. I’m attracting money into my life with my thoughts and attitude.

 

10-step method to manifest moneyUpcoming Final Step

Only one more step to go! On Monday we will evaluate our success (Step 10) and make adjustments according to the results. Even though the 30-day experiment is coming to an end, this is just the beginning of a new lifestyle. We will wrap up the experiment on Tuesday with a recap of each step and some tips on what to do next.

Step 8: Surround Yourself with Positive People

Step 8: Surround Yourself with Positive People

Step 8: Surround yourself with positive peopleThis is Step 8 of my ten-step method to manifest money, and part of the thirty-day experiment (March 13-April 11). Please read the introduction post and the previous seven steps before continuing.

One of the fastest ways to become successful is to surround yourself with successful, positive people. As long as you stay with your regular crowd, people who work 9 to 5 at a job they don’t really like and who wish they had more money, you will find it hard to move past those limiting belief you have that it’s the only way to live.

Meet people who live differently, who follow their passion and make money doing what they love, who travel and go on adventures, who are fun to be around, not only on weekends, but all the time! You will learn from them and eventually you will figure out how to do this with your own life.

 

How to Find Positive People

You may not know many like-minded people yet, who will support your new goal and encourage you on your journey. Time to meet new people! Here are some ideas to help you get started.

  • Go to Meetup.com and look for networking events for entrepreneurs, mastermind meetings, group meditations, or anything else you’re interested in. Chances are you will meet positive people through those events. If you’re an entrepreneur, you can start with the Career and Business category and go from there. If you’re looking for a group meditation, look in the Health & Wellness category. Or go through the list of popular topics to find what you’re interested in.
  • Search for mixers in your area where you can meet successful people. This article lists the best ten websites to find networking events. I haven’t looked into each of them yet, and I’m satisfied with the groups I’ve already joined, but let me know in the comments if any of them works for you. You may want to check out Live Your Legend, an organization that has local chapters all over the world. Their goal is to help you “find & do work you love and surround yourself with the people who make it possible.” I joined the Northern NJ chapter (more on that below).
  • Follow people on Twitter that are living their dreams. There are plenty of them, if you take the time to research a little. I’ve made a list of people who tweet about financial success and another one about mindfulness and meditation. Each member of those lists has a website, follows me back, tweets regularly, and offers original content (not just retweets). Start from those lists (or look at my other lists) and build your own. You can also find people to connect with through hashtags, such as #SuccessTrain or #entrepreneur.
  • Join forums online where positive people network and exchange ideas, or find popular blogs on a topic you’re interested in and read and leave comments. That’s a good way to connect with like-minded people online.
  • Look for e-books on the topic of your choice (for example, financial success, startup, or mindfulness). Check out the authors’ websites and see if you can learn something from their success stories. They almost always have an About tab where they sometimes share their personal journey to get where they are now. You can also connect with the authors on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram and learn even more from them.
  • Think of the most successful people you know in your area, and ask them to mentor you or to introduce you to other people they know.
  • Ask your Inner Guidance in meditation to help you find successful people who can help you. I’ve found a hiking buddy and a therapist that way, and both fit almost exactly the description I had written down in my journal a few months before. Never underestimate the power of your own Inner Guidance. All you need to do is silence your thoughts for a moment and listen, then take inspired action.

 

My Examples

My Twitter lists allow me to select what I want to read instead of skimming through posts from the 5,000 + people I’m following. I have lists for everything: positive people, holistic health, adventurers and travelers, children’s writers, masterminds, … So when I want to learn about holistic health, for example, I first look at the resources posted by people on that Twitter list.

I wanted more than just connecting with people online, so I found ways to connect with people in person. I joined many meditation groups on Meetup and attended several events before finding one group that really resonates with me: Meditation in New Jersey. This group draws such good, positive people and generates a lot of good, positive energy. I’m always looking forward to the next one.

The host of my meditation group, Lou Redmond, started a local chapter of Live Your Legend (as I mentioned above), which I also joined. We meet once a month to exchange tips, help each other, and discuss about how to become successful in whatever projects we have. The synergy in this group is amazing, and the help it provides is invaluable. This is exactly what I needed to motivate me in reaching my goals.

Through these groups, I met someone who introduced me to a friend who has over 1600 contacts. That friend invited me to a networking event where I met many like-minded people and exchanged information and resources with them.

Notice how the simple act of joining a meditation group led me to join another networking group hosted by the same person (which I wouldn’t have known about otherwise), which led me to meet a social guy who has more contacts than I can count, who then introduced me to many of his friends …  When your vision of what you want is clear, you will recognize opportunities and take the necessary actions leading you toward accomplishing your goal. Doors will open. People will show up who can help you.

Within a year, I went from having  a few close friends I had lunch with about once a month, to now having a growing circle of friends and acquaintances I meet with frequently. Some of them became close friends, others I only see when there is an event, but most of them have had a positive impact on my life.

 

 

Your Turn!

Start by joining one group and attending one event and see where it leads. Most Meetup groups are free to join, and attending events is often free or less than $10. If you’re shy you can start with an online forum instead and see how it goes, or attend an event with a friend. Soon you’ll have many good connections and you’ll wonder why you haven’t done it earlier.

 

10-step method to manifest moneyUpcoming Steps

Only two steps left! I hope you’re keeping track of all the steps you’re taking toward your goal, because in Step 9 we’ll be rewarding ourselves for all the good work, regardless of the outcome.

In Step 10 we’ll evaluate our success and make adjustments as needed. It’s a work in progress, so take that imperfect next step, even if you’re not 100% ready. More on that next week.

Have fun networking with positive people!

 

 

 

 

Step 7: Act as if You’ve Already Reached Your Goal

Step 7: Act as if You’ve Already Reached Your Goal

Step 7: Act as if you've already reached your goalThis is Step 7 of my ten-step method to manifest money, and part of the thirty-day experiment (March 13-April 11). Please read the introduction post and the previous six steps before continuing.

So you’ve set a goal (Step 1), addressed any of your limiting beliefs and mental blocks (Step 2 and Step 6), came up with a list of ideas (Step 3), started experimenting with some of them (Step 4), and visualized your success (Step 5). Now it’s time to start acting as if you’ve already reached your goal. It has! In your mind, anyway. The physical manifestation of it will come soon, be sure of it.

I wouldn’t recommend spending money you don’t yet have or booking an expensive vacation you can’t yet afford, just to prove your faith in the system. Live within your means, but act as if you know for sure that more money is coming your way. Just don’t spend it yet!! It’s a state of mind, feeling how it would feel to have that extra money.

 

Action Ideas

Here are a few things you can do to get started:

travelPlan your next vacation, one you can easily afford with the extra money you’re making. Visit a travel agency and look at flyers, go online to see how much airfare costs, and be glad you can easily afford it. Make a vision board of where you will go. Drive to the airport and look around. How does it feel to leave for a tropical destination? Make sure your passport is current! You will need it very soon. Smile at the thought.

 

shop onlineShop online! Go to any store you want, add items to the shopping cart, but don’t actually check out. Just imagine how it will feel once you make a lot of money and you buy all those things. An alternative would be to create a vision board of things you would like to buy. How does it feel like to easily be able to afford them?

 

donateConsider what charity you want to support. It feels good to give something back, and it’s a good practice to attract even more. You give a lot and receive a lot. Money flows harmoniously in your life. Let it go, you have plenty more coming your way. How does it feel to be able to help, to contribute to a cause that is dear to you? Make a small donation you can afford now, knowing with satisfaction that you can give a whole lot more in a near future.

 

budgetMake a budget. Decide how you will use that extra money. A good way to do this is to go with percentages. For example, give 10% to a charity, invest 20%, and spend 70%. Then once your extra money starts coming in, you can already follow that budget, even if it’s a small amount in the beginning. It will give you a feel of what it will be like once you make more.

 

coffee shopDrive around a nice neighborhood, pretending you live in the area. Look at the beautiful houses and imagine one of them is yours. How does it feel like to live in this neighborhood? Have coffee in a fancy restaurant, hang out with wealthy people, walk around this neighborhood like you’re part of it. Figure out the way to and from your regular spots from here.

 

clothes shoppingGo in your favorite store and try on any clothes you would love to have, without looking at the price tags. Take a picture of yourself wearing them then put them back on the rack. You’ll be back later for them, once money has manifested in your life. It’s on its way! Look at the pictures often and relive your experience of wearing those clothes you will soon be able to easily afford.

 

My Examples

Okay, you’ve caught up with me! I’m on that step too. I did follow some of those ideas in the past, for other goals I had.

Back when my goal was to expand my circle of friends, while driving to the grocery store, I imagined I was going to meet and hang out with a very interesting friend instead of going grocery shopping. I got all excited about it! And now I don’t have to pretend anymore; I have many amazing friends I’ve met since then and I get excited at the idea of actually hanging out with them! So it worked.

When I had to drive to the airport to pick up someone, I imagined I was on my way to the airport to go explore Europe instead. I put myself in the state of mind that I was going on a journey, and how it would feel like to drive to the airport with my plane ticket in my handbag, ready to fly to a faraway destination! This hasn’t happened yet, and some other goals took priority since then, but I’ll get back to that idea of traveling the world at some point.

But since we’re talking about manifesting money, here is the perfect example of what visualization and “acting as if” can do. A few years back, I was happily driving to work the day before Thanksgiving, thinking of all the things I was grateful for. I didn’t pay attention to the speed I was going, and … I got a speeding ticket. Great. But instead of being angry about it, I imagined I had just received a winning lottery ticket! (Well, I waited until the police officer left, of course.) I eagerly looked for the amount I had won written on it, but I couldn’t find it. I thought, Wow, I wonder how much I won! I kept that state of mind for as long as I could. My daughter was in a swim team at the time and we had to sell lottery tickets for her team. I ended up buying them as usual, because all my relatives are in Canada and I only have two co-workers …  I never win anything, but it’s all for the kids, right? There was one winner every day, for a different amount each day: $30, $200, $50, … for two months. That year, I won that lottery three times, and the biggest amount of $200 was one of them! I also won the 50/50 at a swim meet. People started noticing! “Again! You’re so lucky!!” I just smiled. That was more than enough to cover my speeding ticket.

Back in 1987, before becoming a famous actor, Jim Carrey wrote himself a check for ten million dollars for acting services rendered, and carried it in his wallet for three years. He would visualize receiving that check with a contract for a role in a movie. Did it happen? YEAH! I would say!! He tells the story on Oprah (1997):

 

Your Turn!

Pick one of the ideas above and experiment with it. Add your own twist to it, if you like, and share it in the comment section.

Then write about your experience in your journal in present tense, as if you are already living the way you want to live. For example, instead of saying “I saw a nice neighborhood I would love to live in some day,” say “I love my new neighborhood! It’s at a walking distance from a beautiful park, and only a few minutes from my favorite hiking trail. People are friendly here and make me feel at home right away. I really enjoy my new life!” Make up your own story and allow yourself to experience the feelings that go with it.

 

10-step method to manifest moneyUpcoming Steps

We’re almost there! Only three more steps to go.

Next week, we will learn how to surround ourselves with successful people (Step 8), which is my favorite step, and we will reward ourselves for taking the steps we’ve taken so far (Step 9).

We will end the 30-day experiment with an evaluation of our success in Step 10. But this is far from being the end; this is just the beginning!

Step 6: Remove Any Mental Blocks You May Still Have

Step 6: Remove Any Mental Blocks You May Still Have

Step 6: Remove any mental blocks you may still haveRemoving mental blocks you may still have is Step 6 of my ten-step method to manifest money, and part of the thirty-day experiment (March 13-April 11). Please read the introduction post and the previous five steps before continuing.

We’re halfway through already. Good job! What are your results so far? Please share in the comment section or e-mail me using the contact form.

 

Where Does Resistance Come From?

If you face resistance when you implement your ideas or visualize your success, it’s totally normal. Your mind is used to playing it safe and tends to go back to being comfortable as opposed to taking risks and facing temporary discomfort. And some of your limiting beliefs have been there for a very long time and won’t go away so easily. It takes some work, but it’s totally worth it.

When you try new things, there will be setbacks and failures. Those setbacks will bring up any limiting beliefs you may still have. You may tell yourself, for example, “Who am I kidding? This will never work, nobody in my family ever got rich doing what they love. I was just deluding myself by thinking it was possible. My dad was right, I need to settle for whatever job I can get and be grateful for it.”

 

Four Steps to Eliminate Mental Blocks

Here is what you can do to take care of any mental blocks you may still have:

  1. Acknowledge your resistance. Whenever you feel anything other than peace, stop and ask yourself, “What am I telling myself right now that makes me feel this way?”
  2. Just still your thoughts and listen to the answer, deep within your heart. Is there a false belief you haven’t addressed yet, because you weren’t aware of it? Are there patterns from your past that this reminds you of? Does this bring back something your parents used to tell you when you were growing up?
  3. Go back to Step 2 and address those limiting beliefs. Some beliefs are deep into your subconscious mind and are harder to uncover than others.
  4. Be grateful to yourself for being able and willing to identify and address it.

 

My Example

Like I mentioned in Step 1, I made a goal of earning an extra $1000 per month. Some days it seems totally realistic, almost too low of a goal. I should have set it higher! I read success stories from people who make this amount per day, or per week. I picture myself having reached that goal already and setting an even higher goal.

Other times, $1000 seems like such a big amount of money. With my day job, it would take me 40 extra hours, and there would be only two-thirds of it left at the end, once I deduct taxes and other deductions. Quite disheartening. And how long will it take to earn that much? I’ve started months ago, and so far I’m making about $1 per month. Is it even realistic to make such a goal for this year?

Here is how I address this mental block when it comes, following the above steps:

  1. I catch myself thinking negatively and acknowledge my mental block. I ask myself, “Where does this mental block come from?”
  2. When I stop for a moment and just listen, I can identify many sources for this mental block:
    1. My father worked hard all his life and never earned anything extra from his day job. (That’s a persistent one I thought I had addressed already, but I need to revisit it.)
    2. I’ve tried monetizing my writing blog in the past, with very little success.
    3. I published a book, but once I’ve run out of relatives and friends to sell it to, the sales came to a stall. It’s hard to make money with writing.
    4. Some success stories I’ve read are from people earning their money by spamming or being so obnoxious that I really don’t want to follow their path. Do I want to become one of those people who follow thousands of new people on Twitter and soon unfollow them, just to increase their number of followers and make themselves look popular? No, I really don’t. I’d rather have fewer followers and connect with them, but it takes time. Can I ever have enough followers and pageviews that way to be able to monetize my site?
  3. I did Step 2 again and address each of those beliefs:
    1. My father never made earning an extra income a priority in his life; if he did he would have found a way to do it, like I’m doing now.
    2. I can learn how to optimize my website to get more views, which is something I didn’t do with my writing blog. There are many resources out there to teach me how to do this.
    3. I never used any promotion services to sell my book in the past. I did my best on my own, but now it’s time to get the help I need from experts.
    4. I need to surround myself with successful people who earn money by giving a valuable service or product. There are many spammers out there, but there are also many genuine people who can teach me how to earn an extra income by following my passion, connecting with people, and helping others (which is Step 8).
  4. I thanked myself for taking the time to address those mental blocks, and I added my new beliefs to my list from Step 2. I will be reading them again regularly until they are part of who I am now.

 

Your Turn!

What limiting beliefs do you still have, either from when you did Step 2 or new ones that emerged while you did the other steps? What’s blocking you from reaching your goal? Pause what you’re doing right now and listen to the answers. Write them down and address each one of them so they are no longer blocking you from the success you deserve.

 

10-step method to manifest moneyUpcoming Steps

On Thursday, we will start acting as if we’ve already reached our goal, with Step 7. If you haven’t started visualizing your success in Step 5 yet, please do so before Thursday.

Next week we will start surrounding ourselves with positive people (Step 8) and rewarding ourselves for all the steps we’re taking toward our goal, regardless of the outcome (Step 9). The last step will be to evaluate our success (Step 10) and make changes if necessary.

Almost there! Keep going! Feel free to share your stories with me as we do each step, using either the comment section or the contact form.

Step 5: Visualize Success: How Does It Feel?

Step 5: Visualize Success: How Does It Feel?

Step 5: Visualize Success: How Does It Feel?This is Step 5 of my ten-step method to manifest money, and part of the thirty-day experiment (March 13-April 11). Please read the introduction postStep 1Step 2, Step 3, and Step 4 before continuing.

So far, you’ve defined your goal (Step 1), uncover and rephrased your limiting beliefs (Step 2), unleashed your creativity and came up with a list of ideas (Step 3), and started experimenting with some of them (Step 4). Congratulations! You’re on the right path.

Today we will do a visualization to help you capture how it will feel once you’ve reached your goal.

 

Visualize Your Success Story

Only you know what you want and how you want to feel. It’s your story, you can make it whatever you want to be! Or maybe you’re not quite sure yet, and that’s okay. That’s what this 30-day experiment is for, to help you define what you want in life and start moving in that direction.

In Step 3, we’ve unleashed our creativity and came up with ideas how to earn an extra income. Then in Step 4, we started experimenting with some of those ideas. By now, you should have a clearer idea of what you would like to do, what would bring you closer to your goal. But more important than how you will get there is how you will feel once you’ve reached your goal. So it doesn’t matter if you still have no clue how to reach that goal you’ve set in Step 1. Focus on how you will feel once you’ve reached it.

 

Guided Meditation to Visualize Your Success

The following guided meditation by Lou Redmond can be done sitting down or lying on a bed or a yoga mat. Just make sure you’re comfortable and won’t be interrupted. Set aside 15 minutes to do it.

 

If you would like to do the meditation on your own instead, follow the steps below:

  1. Close your eyes and take three slow, deep breaths.
  2. Do a body scan to relax your forehead, your jaw, your neck, your shoulders, your arms, your hands, your chest, your abdomen area, your legs, and your feet. Take a few minutes to do this, focusing on relaxing one part at a time, slowly, from head to toes.
  3. Visualize how it will feel like once you’re earning an extra income doing what you love.
  4. See that extra money come either as a bank transfer, as a check by mail, or as cash. See it in your mind, smile with satisfaction, and be proud of yourself. You did it! You’re following your passion and now people are gratefully rewarding you for your product or service. They are happy to send you money, because you’ve helped them so much.
  5. Imagine talking to a friend or family member about it. See him or her congratulate you on your success, being very happy for you. You are an inspiration to others, motivating them to follow their passion as well. Your success mindset is contagious.
  6. Picture what you will do with that extra money. Imagine saving it, spending it, or investing it. Think of all the good things that will come from following your passion.
  7. You are giving of yourself freely and receiving abundantly, in an endless circle. It feels good, it feels right, it feels amazing. You are following your purpose and enjoying it tremendously.
  8. Take another three slow, deep breaths, basking in that feeling before coming back to your reality.
  9. Open your eyes and stretch your arms and legs.
  10. Hold on to that feeling as you go about your business.

 

Some Tips

I recommend doing this meditation daily, preferably in the morning. Try to carry that feeling of success and accomplishment throughout your day. Hold on to it for as long as you can.

Take a quick break during the day to bring the feeling back if it has faded away, then again at night before sleeping. It doesn’t have to be long, a few minutes are enough. Just read through the steps and recall the feeling you captured in your morning meditation.

If you’re not familiar with the body scan meditation, you can use a pre-recorded one from YouTube or on the Insight Timer app. With time, you will be able to do it on your own easily.

 

10-step method to manifest moneyUpcoming Steps

If you’re having a hard time visualizing your success, that might mean you still have some limiting beliefs to address. Write down any negative thoughts that come to mind as they show up. We will work on removing any mental blocks you may still have on Monday, with Step 6. They could be the same ones you’ve uncovered in Step 2 (some are very persistent), or they could be new ones you were not aware of yet.

Then on Thursday, we will take today’s visualization technique one step further and learn how to act as if you had already achieved your goal, with Step 7.

 

Time to Visualize Success

If you haven’t yet go back to the visualization steps and start your meditation practice. Don’t wait for a perfect time to do it; do it now!

Step 4: Take the Next Step: Experiment!

Step 4: Take the Next Step: Experiment!

Step 4: Take the Next Step: Experiment!This is Step 4 of my ten-step method to manifest money, and part of the thirty-day experiment (March 13-April 11). Please read the introduction postStep 1Step 2, and Step 3 before continuing.

Now that you have a list of ideas, it’s time to play with them a little.

Sort out the ideas you found in Step 3. What ideas can you pursue right now, and which ones do you want to save for later? Which one appeals to you most? Sort them by feasibility (short term, long term), by interest (very interesting, not so interesting), or by potential (great potential, not so much potential), whatever works for you.

Take your #1 idea—the one that excites you the most, or the one that is the most accessible right now—and experiment with it. What’s the next step you need to take to implement it? Take that step, and see where it leads. If the step is too big, break it down even more into baby steps. It could be as simple as buying a book or researching online about something you need to learn.

 

Some Tips

Be okay with the temporary discomfort of learning and trying new things, failing and getting back up, facing what it would take to make an idea become successful. Sometimes it takes a lot more effort than you had imagined. Think of the long-term success you will have if you stick with it long enough. Is it worth it? Is this something you’re willing to do for yourself to build your financial freedom? Be comfortable with being uncomfortable, if it leads you closer to where you want to be.

If after taking a few steps toward your idea #1 you decide that it doesn’t appeal to you or that you’re not ready to invest yourself in it right now, cross it out or transfer it to another list for later and go to your idea #2. Focus on the ones that get you fired up and excited!

Remember, you are only experimenting and playing around with ideas at this stage. Don’t think about making money with them yet, just follow your passion and see what happens. Be playful and daring with your ideas. Who knows which one will be successful? Look at it like going on a treasure hunt. Keep digging!

See how far you can go with your ideas during this thirty-day experiment.

 

My Examples

I have a confession to make: I started experimenting way before I started this thirty-day experiment, so I already have a few examples to give you. I’m still far from my goal, though, and I still have a lot of ideas to experiment with, so this thirty-day period is helping me focus on what I need to do next to ultimately reach my goal.

Here are some steps I took toward my first three ideas:

1. Monetize my self-help site (AdSense, Amazon links, affiliate marketing):

  • I need more views before monetizing my site, so I created an Instagram account to have one more way of promoting my blog posts. My knowledge of Instagram was very limited, so I read a very useful article on WeekHack that helped me get started and get over 100 followers in two days.
  • I added Amazon links to books I’ve read in my toolbox pages to make it easier for people to purchase. Amazon gives a small percentage to their affiliates if someone makes a purchase by clicking the link.
  • I purchased a domain name and transferred this site from Blogger to WordPress. I had to learn WordPress, which took some time and effort, but this is something I wanted to do in the future anyway that will also help me with my idea #4: creating blogs and websites for other people. Why not now?
  • Next steps: continue building my Instagram page and increasing my Twitter followers; continue posting on my blog at least once a week and learning how to get more views.

2. Promote my novel:

  • I researched promotion services, such as Bookbub.
  • I looked into publishing other e-book versions of my novel using Smashwords, and saved the link for later.
  • I’m not really into it right now, so I’ve decided to keep this idea for a little later and focus on other ideas that excite me more for now.

3. Monetize my existing HubPages and write new ones:

  • I published content on HubPages years ago and wondered if I was still getting any views. To my surprise, my flash fiction stories are getting 3,000 views per month! So I added AdSense to that site, and now I’m making anywhere between $0.03 and $0.15 per day. Not much, but it only took me two minutes, and it made me realize that it’s possible to get passive income without putting in long hours of hard work (see my limiting beliefs from Step 2).
  • Next step: revise my other pages (some of them have broken links) and possibly post new ones.

I have more, but I’ll stop here. You get the idea.

 

No Time? Think Again!

Once you start following your passion, you just find the time to make it happen. You become more productive, more focused. You find ways to take the next step regardless of your schedule. I’m currently reading The 4-Hour Workweek, by Tim Ferriss, and he gives good tips about finding the time to do what you love.

Would you be willing to spend one hour a day, or a few hours a week working on your goal from Step 1? Can you cut the time you spend watching TV in half and do something productive instead? Can you use your lunch hour to connect with people who can help you reach your goals? What current activity are you willing to trade in exchange for pursuing your dreams? What small pockets of unproductive time can you start using more productively? Every little bit helps.

For example, I didn’t have to allocate any extra time to develop my Twitter and Instagram accounts (post, follow, retweet, etc.). I can do it from my phone, while I’m waiting for my kids to finish their track practice, or at the dentist while sitting in the waiting room, or in that small time frame I have after dropping them off to school, before I go to work.

 

10-step method to manifest moneyUpcoming Steps

On Thursday, with Step 5, we will learn visualization techniques to help you already start feeling the way you will once you’ve reached your goal. This will help you with Step 7, which is to start acting as if you’ve already reached your goal.

If you’re running into any mental blocks or limiting beliefs you may still have, write them down. We will address them in Step 6 next Monday.

Until then, have fun experimenting! I recommend keeping a journal of all the steps you take, however small. This will come in handy when we do Step 9 and reward ourselves for taking those steps.

 

Your Turn to Experiment!

What is the next step you can take to actualize your #1 idea? Take that step now. If it’s too big, break it down into baby steps, and take that baby step. If the next step is a tough one, the visualization from Step 5 next Thursday will help. Meanwhile, get started with what you can. Experiment like a scientist would, to find the winning formula that will work best for you. Good luck!

Step 3: Unleash Your Creativity

Step 3: Unleash Your Creativity

Step 3: Unleash Your CreativityUnleashing your creativity is Step 3 of my ten-step method to manifest money, and part of the thirty-day experiment (March 13-April 11). Please read the introduction postStep 1 and Step 2 before continuing.

So in Step 1, you defined what you want. In Step 2, you’ve addressed your limiting beliefs. Now it’s time to come up with creative ideas that will generate more money.

 

Creativity Unleashed!

Follow one or more of the following six methods to unleash your creativity, and write down every idea that comes to mind, even crazy, impossible ones. You can sort them out later. Have fun with this!

  1. Imagine your creativity as a wild animal in captivity for too long. The gate is open and now it’s running wild! Where does it lead you? What wild dreams did you set aside to conform to what was expected of you or what seemed reasonable at the time? It’s time to revisit those dreams.
  2. Ask your Inner Guidance, “What would it take for me to earn [amount you need] extra per month?” Go past your own thoughts and into your heart. The answer is there. I will explore the concept of Inner Guidance in upcoming posts, but for now, just picture it as your spiritual guide, or someone you admire, such as a religious figure or spiritual teacher, or just your wiser self. One good way to do this is to picture your own thoughts as clouds blocking your inner light. Close your eyes and take three slow, deep breaths. Go through the clouds until you see your inner light, and then just listen. You may not get the answer instantly, but you’ve taken the first step to access your Inner Guidance. Be alert to receive the answer in the days to come, and keep doing this exercise every day. Stay connected.
  3. Play with your inner child. What does he or she love doing? Ask and listen. What did you used to do for fun when you were little? How can you use that today? Do a quick meditation and follow your inner child to where her or she leads you to have fun. What do you end up doing?
  4. If it weren’t of money, what would you do with your time? Investing yourself freely in something you love is a great way to unleash your full potential. If joy became the national currency, what kind of work would make you wealthy?
  5. Fulfill a need people have. What skills or abilities do you have that could benefit others? What need do you personally have, that other people may also have? Find ways to fulfill that need and offer the solution to others. Create something you wish existed.
  6. Stay alert to any new ideas that pop into your mind or that people mention. Write them down. They may be the answer you are looking for.

The most important part is, have fun doing this! Who knows which of these ideas will lead you to where you want to be! You won’t know until you try, which is what we will do in Step 4. But for now, just list all your crazy ideas as they come to you, even if you think they are totally unrealistic.

 

My Twenty Ideas

When I did those exercises, I thought I would come up with a handful of good ideas, and I already had a few in mind: things I had done in the past or that I had thought of doing. To my surprise, I came up with twenty ideas that could generate an extra income.

Some are pretty vague and general right now, and there are a few I’m really not sure I would even like to try, but I wrote them down anyway:

  1. Monetize my self-help site (AdSense, Amazon links, affiliate marketing)
  2. Promote my novel
  3. Monetize my existing HubPages and write new ones
  4. Write and publish a new book (short stories, new novel, recipes, mindfulness, …) or magazine articles
  5. Create blogs and websites for other people
  6. Start an Amazon or e-Bay business: Canadian products or other
  7. Start a website about O. Henry and offer teacher’s guides
  8. Format e-books for other people
  9. Design picture quotes and infographics for other people
  10. Offer my editing services again
  11. Make and sell cheesecakes
  12. Invest in real estate
  13. Buy a website on auction that is already generating money
  14. Develop an app
  15. Invest in the stock market
  16. Offer webinars or e-classes (French, mindfulness)
  17. Do product reviews and get paid for it
  18. Make and sell jewelry racks
  19. Make YouTube videos
  20. Study computer programming again and change career

 

10-step method to manifest moneyUpcoming Steps

Some of the ideas you’ve listed may require a lot of time and energy; others would push you to learn skills or knowledge you don’t have yet; and some you can do right away. In step 4, which I will post on Monday, we will sort out all those ideas and start experimenting with them.

Then in Step 5, we will start visualizing how it will feel like once we’ve reach the goal we’ve set in Step 1. This is a very important step, and you can already start doing this as you write your ideas. Picture yourself being successful and receiving money for doing what you love. Feels great, doesn’t it! We will dig deeper into that on Thursday.

Your Turn!

Write down all your creative ideas in your notebook, if you have one. If not, a piece of paper or your phone’s memo app will do. Carry it with you and keep adding to it as the ideas come.

If any limiting beliefs resurface while doing this exercise, write them down and do Step 2 again. For example, when I wrote, “Invest in the stock market,” some limiting beliefs showed up: “I don’t know anything about investing, and it would take a long time for me to figure out how to be successful at it. It’s very risky, and some people lose a lot of money doing that. Is it even worth my time? I don’t have that much money I could risk losing.” I wrote it down anyway.

Once you start experimenting with each of those ideas in Step 4, you’ll figure out if this is something you really want to pursue or if you should just cross it out. But for now, just take a few minutes to write down all your crazy ideas. One of them may turn out to be a gem.