Here is an overview of Bentinho Massaro’s video, Imagineer Your Life:
- 0:00 – 12:42 – Skip (total silence)
- 12:42 – 38:00 – Part 1: See, Feel, and Be the Frequency of Your Choice
- 38:00 – 51:23 – Part 2: Decide Who You Are
- 51:23 – 1:17:30 – Part 3: Integrity v/s Following Your Heart (this post)
- 1:17:30 – 2:12:53 – Questions and Answers
Following are my notes from Part 3 of the video. My personal comments are in brackets; all other notes are direct quotes from the video I found meaningful. Enjoy!
Part 3 – Integrity v/s Following Your Heart (51:23 – 1:17:30)
[Skip to 51:23]
51:23 – Integrity and communication
You don’t have to break the laws of integrity in order to be what you wanna be. People often think that they do, but you don’t. Keeping yourself limited is not integrity. You’re here to be free. You’re here to generate your reality.
If there are seemingly only two options: either lose your integrity and follow your heart or keep your integrity and don’t follow your heart, then ask yourself for that higher, third, unseen, more creative option that comes from a higher dimensional way of thinking, outside of the box. There’s always that option where your integrity can be maintained or can be improved upon, even, while you’re actually making the choices that your heart wants to make.
When it comes to relationships with people, communication is the very simple answer. People always feel stuck in their agreements. Use your lips to communicate what your heart is saying, and you’ll be surprised how many agreements you can simply change, respectfully so, and how you can actually liberate the other party too, because nobody wants you there if you don’t wanna be there. It goes for any type of contracts or relationships. You’re not productive, you’re not energetically exciting, you’re not mutually beneficial, it’s not a relationship anymore. So do them a favor and follow your heart.
53:49 – Perpetual state of acceleration
When you stop waiting, you start accelerating and you actually start to find out who you are, because it’s a fun process, it’s a roller coaster ride. You keep recreating your reality every day, and every day will be very different from the previous day. It becomes so fast that you won’t recognize yourself or your friends anymore from two days ago. That’s not a problem, unless you define it in such a way. But it’s actually very exciting. You can’t remember, not really, who you were two days ago.
Imagine being in such a perpetual state of acceleration and move and changes. It becomes so your default mode of being that two days later you have changed as an average person would change not even in twenty years, energetically, vibrationally, personality-wise, physically-wise, circumstantially. After twenty years, do you recognize yourself as of twenty years ago? Not really. It doesn’t feel real anymore. It feels like a very distant memory. Now you have that experience every two days. It can be a little scary at first, but once you get used to it, it becomes very exciting.
So accelerate! You don’t accelerate in the path of your depression. Depression feels slow, it feels heavy, and it’s okay, if it comes up it’s fine. Love it, embrace it, let it be there. But as you let it be there, you see that it’s pasted onto the canvas of your creation, it’s not who you are. Crucial difference. When depression comes up, you know very clearly that it’s one of those experiences that you made manifest so that you can very clearly distinguish who you are and who you’re not, what is true and what is not true. Anything that does not feel good is fundamentally, vibrationally out of alignment with the truth of your being. That is why it feels bad.
There cannot be a wrong circumstance, because every circumstance is an equally valid and empty and neutral expression of infinity. There cannot ever be something inherently wrong with your circumstances. You only feel bad because your beliefs about what you’re seeing are untrue, because your beliefs about who you are in relationship to what you see are untrue. Your state of being is being randomly operated, you’re not conscious of it, you’re not intending who you wish to be. You’re not deciding what is true. You’re not pasting on to your creation who you are. You’re not seeing your preference. That’s why you feel bad. That’s why you slow down. That’s why you become depressed.
1:02:15 – Pain and healing
Good feelings are versions of you getting closer in alignment with the frequency that is always present as a wall, it’s this barometer as this constant feel that you’re inundated with that you can’t perceive. But as soon as you create something that’s not in alignment with it you will feel it as pain, as suffering, as struggle.
If you learn from that, see that you manifested that reality so that you can know that it’s not who you are, and you can simply start to see, feel and be without having to even harken back to your traumas and all these things, but simply start creating something new. Start shifting your reality, your identity, until your traumas become so far a thing of the past parallel self that they’re no longer yours and then you’re healed.
“Staying with it” does not heal you; you’ll “stay with it.” Here’s the thing: you cannot take something that hurts and remove it from existence. That’s what many people think healing is. You cannot take something that exists and make it non-existent, it’s impossible! So healing does not exist. You can’t heal something that is. Something that is already is what it is and will always be present in that parallel frequency reality. Why? Because it offers many different consciousnesses, many different experiences that they choose to experience by their vibrational match. You cannot take your trauma and heal it, it’s meant to be a traumatic experience. That’s what it’s there for, to offer people traumatic experiences.
If you wish to heal yourself, you need to understand that you are a different vibrational reality now. And when you know that, that now just seems like a distant memory that you can’t really connect to anymore. It just feels like it’s just an image on the screen. But you can’t feel it and be it, because your vibration is so far moved on into a different higher vibrational reality that you now feel completely healed without ever “staying with that trauma.” You spiritually bypassed your way into healing!
I’m not saying it’s not a good practice to sometimes experience the feelings that come up and “sit with them,” but not for too long, just to gain experience, just to see what it’s like to look at your painting and not really enjoy what you’re seeing. But with a smile on your face and knowing that it’s your painting over there and it’s not who you are; in fact, it’s showing you more and more that that’s not who you are, because it’s not feeling good. But you don’t stay with it and try to somehow eradicate it from existence by your loving gaze. Your loving gaze will only help you because the love that is in your gaze will shift your frequency to a reality where you’re no longer in touch with that reality, so you feel healed and you create the illusion of “Oh my God, I healed my trauma!” No, it’s still there! Dig hard enough and you’ll find it. It’s right there, waiting for you, if you want it to be. If you want to experience it again, you can.
1:06:20 – Choices v/s other people
Let people have their choice, you choose yours, and through your example of choosing your reality, you’re actually freeing people up from the idea that they’re stuck in theirs. Because they see you move so fast, they see you change so fast. They see you actually be wise, ecstatic, and mature yet without sacrificing your integrity at the same time, and they’re scratching their heads. “Wow, you can actually follow your heart and still be a good kid?” No, actually you can’t. You cannot be a good boy, you cannot be a good girl, just the heads up, if you wish to follow your heart. It’s not possible. The good thing is, your ideas about what it means to be a good boy or a good girl will change.
Being a good girl or a good boy is not the same as maintaining integrity, it’s something completely different. So can you follow your dreams to the fullest of your ability, without ever having to sacrifice in your integrity towards other beings and the agreements you have in your realities? Absolutely! Can you become more free without ever being a rebel? No, absolutely not. No way will you be more of yourself if you don’t dare to step outside of the box.
If people choose to feel bad about the choices that you make for your own life without ever touching theirs, that is their choice. Will I be loved? Yes. Will I be appreciated for it? No, probably not. But that is their choice. You also become very clear on where that invisible boundary is of where your free will ends and someone else’s starts. This is very mixed up in our society. That’s why we all feel so stuck in having to maintain each other’s feelings. If I don’t step on your toes, you won’t step on mine, and we’ll never ever learn a single thing about creation, and we’ll never have fun, but at least we won’t be hurt. So let’s hurt ourselves all the time by not being who we are so that we don’t have to hurt each other. That is our people’s vision of what it’s like to maintain integrity and free will. In reality it doesn’t work that way. I am free to make my choices, and you are free to make your choices. It’s as simple as that.
1:10:32 – Definition of integrity
Where have you actually made a promise? You’d be surprised how very little promises you’ve actually made. But we think we’ve made a lot of them. We feel responsible for a lot of things. So when you feel a change of energy come up. or an expansion of energy, or a different choice, all you need to do is simply sense into that, and yes, you can be as respectful as you can be, meaning that if you feel that the other being or the other company or the other contract somehow assumes something from your promise, even though maybe it has never been verbalized, then of course, communicate that. It feels good, it feels loving, it feels like it’s maintaining your integrity. Maybe you postpone following your dream for a day or two, or for an hour or two, or for the extent of that conversation, but that’s worth it. It makes you feel good, and it teaches you compassion and love and all these things. You communicate as clearly as you can what is true for you, and you see what happens in that dialogue. But at the core of your being, you always know that you are free to choose your reality, and you don’t have any actual energetic physical ties to any other reality. So you simply communicate that, and then you go about your business.
My definition of integrity is a) infinite abundance: you don’t have to deprive anyone else of what they desire in order to gain what you desire, in other words, you don’t have to steal someone’s happiness, compare, be competitive, take away anything from anyone else; and b) clear communication: you respect the fact that you’ve signed up to be part of this collective, and so you understand that people do assume certain things, so you bring as clear of a communication to that situation as you can while realizing that at the heart of it you have free choice and they have free choice, and that you’re not responsible for anyone else’s feelings or for even the contracts that you’re in, but you simply have to communicate those changes, otherwise you may not feel as good about your choice.
If it comes to the point where the other person does not want that clear insight, then you have to make a choice. Either you submit yourself to their reality because you feel that otherwise you would hurt them or something like that, or you go about your way anyway, realizing that they choose to not want that clarity and they want to keep that victimization story going. You have been very clear with them, and then in a sense the ball is in their corner. If they still wish to continue to believe these things about that idea, then they can. At some point you have to draw the line, cut those ties. But before you do that, do your utmost to communicate as clearly as you can and to respect the assumptions they may have.
1:17.30 – Questions from the audience (until the end)
[There is good content in his answers, but I’m leaving it out because it’s long and tedious to listen to.]