Now that you’ve defined what you want in Step 1, it’s time to address any limiting beliefs you may have that are preventing you from reaching that goal.
Find Out What Your Limiting Beliefs Are
Read your goal again and ask yourself the following questions:
- What makes you hesitate to pursue your goal?
- What do you think might happen if you do?
- Why aren’t you there yet? For example, why aren’t you already making that extra $1000?
Write down what comes to mind in your notebook, if you have one. Those are your limiting beliefs.
For example, when you wrote down your goal in Step 1, you may have thought, “Yeah, right. Nobody earns that much money by doing what they love. I know many starving artists, it’s very hard to make money using your talent. I’ve tried it before and it didn’t work. Who am I kidding, thinking I can reach that goal!” Or you may have had resistance from thinking of the consequences reaching your goal may have: “If I get rich, people will only love me for my money. I won’t have any true friends. And I’ll be stressed out, scared of losing everything or getting robbed.”
Write them down without judging yourself for having those thoughts. Just write down anything that comes to mind, even if it sounds silly.
Rephrase Your Limiting Beliefs
Starting with the first belief you’ve listed, ask yourself if your belief is true. Explore your belief to find out where it comes from and how it has served you in the past. Acknowledge it without judging it. It has helped you in some ways. There is a reason why it’s there.
For example, it may have helped you find and keep a secure job, which was what you needed at the time, because you didn’t have the knowledge or the drive to follow your passion. Or it helped you fit in with other people living that way, which was your goal at the time, to be accepted and to do what you thought you were expected to do. It’s all good. But now you can revisit those beliefs and find out if they still work for you, or if your goals have changed and they are now holding you back.
Find proofs that your belief is not completely accurate, and rephrase it to make it more accurate or more useful to you at this time in your life, knowing what you know now, and being who you are now. The limiting belief is no longer serving you, even though it has, in the past. Thank it for its work and let it go.
For example, you thought that nobody could earn a living doing what they love. Is this true? Find people who are living that way, and reconsider your belief. Some people do earn a living doing what they love. We will talk about this in Step 8, but for now, just use this to acknowledge that your old belief is not 100% accurate. You may rephrase it to: “Some people earn a living by doing what they love. I can learn how to do that.”
Do this for each limiting belief you listed. You may need to repeat that process again later on if you find out there are more beliefs you haven’t addressed yet, if you get stuck along the way. Subconscious beliefs sometimes take longer to uncover. You will get a chance to do that in Step 6. Don’t spend too much time on this step, just start with what you have.
Impress Your Mind with Your New Beliefs
Now that you’ve done your work and found new beliefs to replace the old ones, it’s time to put them to work for you. List all your new beliefs on one page and read them every day to impress them onto your subconscious mind and make them become part of you, natural.
The old beliefs may resurface once in a while, but you will be able to catch yourself and replace it with your new belief. With time, it will become natural and your new beliefs will be part of who you have chosen to become.
I will give you an example of Step 2 with one of my limiting beliefs about my goal to earn an extra $1000 per month.
- What makes me hesitate to pursue this goal? I don’t think I have what it takes to earn that income without killing myself working long hours.
- What might happen if I reach my goal? I will be exhausted from working so much and have no free time. My time is already limited enough as it is. How would I even handle more work?
- Is this true? I did make some money in the past using my skills as an editor and as a writer. Maybe I could learn new ways to use those skills to make money without working long hours. I know there are people I follow on Twitter who earn money without putting in long hours of hard work. Can I learn how to do that?
- Where does this belief come from? My parents always lived from paycheck to paycheck, by working hard. My whole family does that. In fact, most people I know have a day job and no other source of income, and some work two jobs and have no life, just to support their family.
- My new belief: I have what it takes to earn $1000 more per month without putting in long hours of hard work. I just have to figure out how to do this, by surrounding myself with people who are already doing it and by tuning in to my inner guidance to uncover my marketable skills.
Take some time now to do this step. Start with what you have. You can always expand on it later, but get started NOW!
On Thursday, we will unleash our creativity and list ideas how to make money, with Step 3. This is my favorite step, and I was able to list over 20 ideas, some of which I’ve already started pursuing, which is Step 4: experiment! We will go over that step on Monday.
If you’re already starting getting ideas how to earn an extra income, write them down! It will give you a headstart for Step 3. If you have no clue, that’s also fine. Thursday’s post will help you explore ideas.